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What made you realize your gay /bi

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Jayo, Aug 17, 2023.

  1. Jakebusman

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    So happy to hear you met and found people to connect with in college !
     
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    Thanks for sharing your story. I’m glad you found a way to accept your feelings. Anytime you want to chat more about stuff I’m here
     
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    I grew up boy-crazy, even flirted with my Dad's friends. I was absolutely disgusted with the idea of being a lesbian - I was the person
    least likely to be one, I thought. There were signs though - I couldn't figure out why I loved looking at pictures of sexy women as much
    as my Dad did. I also wished I could have a "wife" because I thought that would be better than a husband.
    When I was 15, I met a gay girl and it was fireworks as soon as we met. Completely unexpected to me. Mutual attraction.
    I have never really been interested in men since then. I crossed the line and could not go back, I didn't want to either.
     
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    That 'fireworks' feeling never gets old :grin:
     
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    I have felt attraction like that to two other women since, but it does not happen every time.
     
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    . hmm me too..
     
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    i fell accidentaly on friend and end up kissing each other
     
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    when we were grab assing around and we fell on my friend and we were face to face then kissed:couple_mm:
     
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    I love how confidently you embrace it! I’m starting to feel the same way but it’s taken me a lot of self reflection and reflection on feelings I had and still have but denied it and tried to burying it. Thanks for sharing’
     
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    Thinking back I was attracted to guys when I was 12-13 yo. An older neighbor let me play with him and would JO for me. I didn't start to accept the male attraction until I was in my 20's. Didn't act on it until I was in my late 30's.
     
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    My story is here it’s similar I messed around with my friend when I was 14 up until 18 then I moved away to a different city.We did everything together he was my first bj my first penetrating sex .i lied to myself for a long time but now I fully accept I’m bi . I’m 38 now and I’m feeling really good not lying to myself anymore
     
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    Good for you! I wish I could have experimented sooo much more when I was a teen. I knew then but suppressed those feeling until late in life. I'll get there!
     
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    I’m thankful now but because I had my own internal homophobia to deal with it caused a lot of mental anguish but I’m in a much better place now thanks to ec and these brave kids now who push the envelope
     
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    That was exactly my experience. I knew when I was sixteen but did not want to reveal it to anyone. Looking back now,
    that was a stupid way to be, but I just wasn't ready. There is one thing I have to add though, getting into a comfortable lifestyle
    is hard to do, even after you have accepted yourself.
     
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    I have always had crushes on girls but thought it was nothing. One day I was on YouTube and by accident +18 video showed up about two girls together then I realized that I am gay that day.
     
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    I agree it’s hard to get into a comfortable lifestyle. Being here and seeing so many guys who grew up with an experience like mine helps a lot though. When I came to ec I was in a really bad place. My marriage was in a fucked up place my head was in a fucked up place . My wife did and said some stuff that completely shattered my confidence and my view on everything. Then all those feelings from when I was a teenager started coming back and I looked at my entire life and it was just like wow you really are bisexual because I enjoyed everything me and my friend did . I’m actually talking to a guy now just taking it slow but I’ll see where it goes
     
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    I can't say I ever had crushes on girls. But there was one girl that fascinated me in grade 4. She was the prettiest girl in the class, blonde hair, blue eyes, cute, everything, smart dresser. I imitated her and dressed like her. She was the first girl to have a boyfriend in my class, maybe in the school. I thought she was a goddess. I was more interested in her than the boy, but I don't think it was sexual. To this day, I still daydream about being a woman like her.
    I realized I was gay when I met a girl in high school and we both fell for each other. I won't get into that right now, but the funny thing is, she wasn't even good-looking! Up until that time, I got crushes on boys, male teachers, any good-looking male really. I changed in one day, the day I met her. It's interesting what you said about porn. I walked into the room one day (recently) and my husband was watching lesbian porn, which he doesn't usually watch. As soon as I saw it, I had the strangest familiar feeling like that is the only thing that is natural to me.
     
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    This site has helped me too. There are more guys here than women, I think because most women are too shy to talk about sex. But I learn from the guys too. I hope you sort out your problems. My life is in a mess right now. I am trying to sort it out. I am being open about my experiences and maybe people are getting entertained or learning from me. Stay tuned! Being on here helps and I know it will help you.
     
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    istarted around 10 when me and a friend found some porn mags. there weralso about transformation and it stuck with me. I also had read about christine jorgenson in the papers and ir ead it over and over. kinda after that I used to think and dream about growing breasts and having a sex change. that never went away
    in high school there was a gay boy and we wanted to get together but never happened
    about the same time I found out my father was gay or bi and a crossdresser

    I had already started trying on moms cloths
    after i got married Id the same with my wifes clothsfast forward to 98 and I decieded i wanted boobs so i started taking hormones and developed boobs which i still have
    that created a ned for bras which turned into full crossdressing, and with that my need and desire to be with other men
    way back in the 70,s after i was married i had 3 gay incounters
    once started with womens cloths couldnt stop and kept on trying to seek out other bi,s or gays
    to this day iwear bras and panties full time because of medical need. my first wife accepted it. after she passed away i had to get rid of everything and stop hrt when i got remarried. now its only the bra and panties and she doesnt know my secrets