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What is more important, sexual attraction or romantic attraction?

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  1. Mollyismyname

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    There is no universial truth, but which is more important to you?

    I must say romantic attraction for me. Dunno why, but it just... is.
     
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    Romantic for me as well :slight_smile:
     
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    Romantic. It's not as superficially based.
     
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    Romantic. I'm not a very sexual person.
     
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    I think sexual attraction is most important in the beginning, with romantic attraction being important as the interest/relationship gets more serious. (for me)

    If I am sexually attracted to them, then I'll want to be around them a lot*, and learn more about them so I can decide if I want to peruse the interest. If I am not attracted, then I'll simply want to be their friend. From both, a relationship could develop if I liked their personality and was reciprocal.

    *Once every two weeks for 3-5 hrs in person, once a week for 15m-1hr online/mobile.
     
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    Romantic.
     
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    Romantic always comes first for me. It's generally what makes me more interested in talking to someone I like and tends to keep my interest too.
     
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    In my opinion they're equally important. You need one in order to have the other, because if you have sexual attraction without romantic attraction, chances are it'll fizzle out fairly quickly (especially in a relationship), but if you have romantic attraction without sexual attraction, then you're pretty well set up for frustration and, in the end, failure.
     
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    I'm going with romantic too. Once I heard an ex-work colleague saying "sex is the biggest part of a relationship", but I don't think that an union of two people depends on how many times they go to bed.
     
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    Both are important (mutually beneficial I think) but romantic seems more so. Whereas sexual attraction is basically all physical, romantic values the person more as a human with a personality.
     
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    Hard one, I mean it's tempting to say romantic but honestly I can't imagine a relationship where you're not sexually attracted to your partner at all working. So obviously sexual attraction is a pretty key basis for a relationship, but obviously romantic attraction is equally important for a happy and fulfilling relationship.
     
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    Since I am not exactly the most sexual person on this planet I am inclined to say romantic attraction.
    However I am not one to make decisions or trust some instincts or feelings of attraction alone anyway.
    What matters to me way more than both sexual and romantic attraction in the end is whether his and my personalities show compatibility and establishing a functioning and stable relationship is possible with this person. Otherwise regardless of what attraction I may have I wouldn’t see any logical reason to further pursue and invest time into the contact.
     
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    I think it should go in this order: Friendship, romance, sexual (Usually gets stronger from the first two).
     
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    In my opinion, romantic attraction is more important, because if the attraction is purely physical (sexual), and the sex falls away for some or other reason - what's left to keep the couple together?
     
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    Romantic attraction
     
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    Still don't understand what's the difference of those two.

    Someone may willing to explain?
     
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    I tend to experience sexual attraction because of romantic feelings.
    But sometimes I only experience one or the other.
    I'd say both are important, but romantic attraction is stronger for me.
     
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    Romantic: desire to be in a relationship with someone and go on dates and such, basically who you want to grow old with.
    Sexual: based mainly on if you want to have sex with or do sexual things with someone.
    For me personally, both are just as important as each other.
     
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    definitely romantic.

    I can’t say I'm actually interested in having sex, at least in the literal meaning.