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What is hard about dating you?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Sealgirl19, Sep 21, 2016.

  1. gravechild

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    Let's see here.

    I am always busy with band stuff, I don't like talking about my past, I have unsteady grades and a mother who blows up when I get a B on anything, I am not completely out at home even though I am out and proud at school, I am super awkward, I have bipolar depression and some serious anxiety, I can get clingy fast, and I don't know how to make the first move.

    What did I miss?

    Oh yeah, my mom is extremely overbearing and does not let me handle my own problems, and she would never let me date because of my grades. She would also probably chaperone my first real date because she thinks that is something all "good mothers" should do. Who the hell ruins their kid's first date like that?

    The list is probably longer than this. Also, I am very passive aggressive and I don't know how to flirt.
     
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    My insecurities. I would get embarassed if he were too kiss me. I need him to get me to the point where I would reply with a kiss. I'm still scared and confused as to what I am right now. But my gay friend has known his sexuality when he was 10 years old.
     
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    Im touchy if i get comfortable with a person and if that's ok with her. Im the jealous type which i will not admit. And if i like you that much, i willmost likely text you frequently :slight_smile:
     
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    PTSD, trust issues, fear of commitment, emotional instability, etc.

    My mind is a fucking mess. I can't ask someone to put up with that.
     
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    I am very shy and a bit scared when it comes to sex. I've never had it, or even dated someone, so if someone were to date me, it would probably be a long wait until I'm ready to have sex. I'd have to really love and trust you. That could be hard for some people, I'm sure.

    I also struggle with anxiety and depression, which might be a burden on anyone I may date.

    I'm also not completely out. I'm out to many friends , my brother, and my mom, but that's it. I do think that dating someone would probably be enough motivation for me to finally come out though, so hopefully that wouldn't be a problem for long.
     
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    I have so little time to fit someone into my life right now. Better soon, I hope.
     
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    Everything about dating is hard
     
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    there's way to many reasons to list , but some would be...
    * I'm kinda shy and socially awkward.
    * I have some way of driving people away - even if I try to be friendly, it must come across at the opposite or something like that.
    * I'm also a fairly boring person.
    * Oh and sex would pretty much not be an option (I do infact consider myself partly asexual)
    * um plus.. them coming over to my place would never be an option.


    (It really comes down to the fact I'm nearly 100% undateable/unloveable/unfriendable/etc)
     
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    Nothing I hope I'm a nice girl but I can be a bitch some times I guess and I'm a little shy around people I don't know
     
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    I go to a boarding school so I have little time on my hands and on top of that I spend far too much time looking at my phone...
     
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    No money, no passport, most likely working in a job that will make any relationship into a LDR.
    I'm very affectionate so I wouldn't do well with a non-affectionate person.
    I enjoy quality time together so I don't want to be with anyone who is too busy for me. We are all busy but at least I try to make time for the one I love. And sometimes just a few minutes a day is enough, especially in a LDR.
    I'm right-wing.
     
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    Tend to withdraw and disconnect after some intense time together with someone. Being an introvert, I need time alone to recharge.
     
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    I think the hardest part would be to WANT to date me in the first place haha.


    okay but seriously for a moment, probably that im very quiet, but when i do say something....it might be.....dodgy........as in might be inappropriate or rude (not sexual rude but like "well that was rude" kinda rude). haha im extremely hard to get close to relationship wise
     
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    I have a peculiar kind of personality made up of two extremes: Extremely serious and extremly tiresome-childish. Also, you have to accept that I like bashing myself. It's just how I am, I don't think I will ever stop completely, even if I suddenly wake up with a perfect-looking body.
     
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    Same
     
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    Everyone's putting really deep answers and I think I'm just annoying in general :slight_smile:
     
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    At the moment, not being completely happy with myself. Which is why I'm not looking to date right now.
    Disregarding that for a moment and imagining a better point in the future; my introverted side. I don't mind hanging with small groups of people every now or then, or even going to large parties on occasion, but don't expect me to be a party animal or to manage large groups of unfamiliar people coupled with small talk on a day to day basis.