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What is hard about dating you?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Sealgirl19, Sep 21, 2016.

  1. Blood Elf

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    The fact that I'm not really into dating. lols
     
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    That's a huge plus for me actually. :lol: Kind of shows that what one perceives as (possibly) bad is actually not bad or even good to others.

    The hard thing about dating me would be.. that I don't date when in a relationship? :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: But besides that, I think it'd be my carefree nature and lack of nuance.
     
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    I think it's hard for me to open up to people and even if I love them a lot, with all my heart, it will still take a long time for me to be able to trust someone and all that. I tend to rather listen to other people open up and help them, than totally expose myself or personal things about my life, which someone might find difficult. I'm working on it though and I'm sure that with the right person I'll be able to build up trust over time.
     
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    Wow, this is a really interesting thread because I never really thought of this, but the list can go on forever.

    The fact I still live with my parents who are quite overbearing is probably the biggest one. My schedule is extremely busy, so finding time to hang out would be hard and probably annoy the other person. I lack confidence, which I know guys can find annoying. I'm a neat freak, so that may be a problem for some guys to deal with. I'm a morning person when most people aren't.

    I wouldn't say I'm clingy because I'm certainly not with my friends (they would probably say I go MIA too often) and I've never been in a relationship so I can't say from experience, but I imagine myself wanting to talk to the guy very often. If I imagine myself in love, I imagine myself wanting to spend A LOT of time around that person and I don't know how a guy would feel about that.
     
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    I don't like physical contact and I am not good at communicating with others.

    Also I tend to get emotionally attached to people really quick and if the relationship ends I'm always broken hearted. I dated this girl for only a week and I still got my heart broken.

    ---------- Post added 23rd Sep 2016 at 03:46 PM ----------

    Wow, are you my twin?
     
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    Everything.
     
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    Oh boy, this is going to be a big one. I'll start with what so many think is the worst one. I am a Trump supporter. I'm sorry, but the moment that Clinton opposed gay marriage I was done with her family. No, I am not a republican, I just don't believe a thing out of her mouth.
    I flirt and don't get jealous. My partner can flirt and be flirted with and it won't bother me. I should be who they choose, not who they should be stuck with. If someone else makes them feel attractive, good. I want them to choose to come home to me.
    I'm not one for gossip, drama, or manipulation and drop anyone like a hot stone who is.
    There is more, but this is the usual run away button.
     
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    I already posted, but I figured I should add this- my physical needs. I am very, VERY affectionate these days, since awhile back my sense of security was shaken pretty deeply... Because of this, I always feel better when someone's at least offering to hold my hand, talk to me or, in rare cases, give me a really sincere smile. o.o All of those things make me feel better... but yeah, I hug all of my friends and nuzzle them, and while I could probably stop those two things for the most part if my partner was jealous, I have an endless supply of innuendos and hand-holding, so if my partner can't stand that, it might not work between us...
     
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    I'm stubborn and refuse to compromise over important things
    I'm touchy and sensitive
    I'm not into sex
    I need lots of privacy
     
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    I will just stop talking to people for a couple days and basically disappear then in a few days I go on like that just didn't happen.(!)
     
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    Eh, I've never actually kissed anybody and I'm 18 now!

    That's because I've only ever had one relationship and it was long-distance, also I rarely ever feel enough for somebody to want to date them. I've had three serious crushes in my entire life, and it's like - why kiss somebody you're not interested in, you know?

    Yep, "emotionally unavaliable", there it is!
     
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    My Age GRRRRRRRRRRR no one will even give me a chance
     
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    I am one of those awkward people that don't know how to comfort people, I am also somewhat aloof and don't trust easily until I get to know you and sometimes I shut everyone out when I'm stressed or in large crowds.

    also, i've never kissed anyone before
     
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    I'm incredibly possessive, tell awful puns constantly, have very strong opinions and put myself before everyone else. Basically, I'm a bit of a prick But I'm not so bad, I guess :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm basically like a dog. No really.
     
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    I'm intimidating

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    And I can't small talk. Talking with me gets too heavy. And I worry a lot and need space because there's no point bothering others with it.

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    So I'm either close up in myslef or moan. That happens a lot. What a grump.
     
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    If one were to date me I suppose my husband would keep showing up. I imagine that would be quite awkward.
     
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    It's easy to lose my respect.
    I have no sexual experience with other people.
    I'm not out.
    I'm an attention whore when it comes to people I really like and get lonely easily without them.
    I have self-esteem issues.
    I'm socially stupid/awkward/anxious.
    I can maybe kind of slightly be a jerk at times.
    I bottle up negative emotions and am bad at opening up emotionally.
    I'm good at being in denial about things.
    There are a lot of religious fundamentalists in my family.
    I have trouble trusting that anyone has my best interests in mind, really cares about me, or genuinely wants me around.
    Sometimes I just want to be left alone, without question.
    I can be really stubborn about doing things my own way at my own pace.
    I get cranky without my morning coffee. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    So basically, someone would need to have a never-ending well of patience in order to date me and not feel like pulling her hair out on a regular basis.