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What Gender Would You Raise Your Child As?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by MindvsHeart, May 6, 2015.

  1. MindvsHeart

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    This is open for anyone to answer I guess but it's more directed to my fellow Nb's, Genderqueer/Genderfluid and Trans peeps.

    So here's the hypothetical scenario: Say you're about to become a parent and besides the obvious excitement of a child on the way, the hectic craziness of planning and saving up money, etc - a sudden question arises in your mind.
    What gender would you raise your child as?

    Would you raise them as the societal prescribed 'female' or 'male'?

    Or let them blur the lines as they grew so that they could experience both?

    Or even yet, would you raise them genderless?

    ~And when you answer, please include why you picked the choice that you did. It's always interesting seeing other people's reasons. :thumbsup:


    [Note: Don't answer at all if you're going to be a smartass. Comments such as 'Well, I'm not going to be a parent' or 'None of the above' is not needed or appreciated. It's like...why the hell did you participate in the first place then? :***:]

    Thanks in advance everyone! :eusa_clap(*hug*)
     
  2. MetalRice

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    Whatever gender they are born as obviously, unless they later tell me otherwise.
     
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    A man, damn it!

    'Cause it's the only one that matters.




















    No, I'd raise them as universally as possible. Obviously, for certain activities like the restroom, I'd go with their sex. But until they started telling or showing me otherwise, I'd keep it as down the middle as possible. Eventually, I'd go with whatever they wanted to, within reason...

    ... I will slap my child if they tell me they're a damn plant. LOL.
     
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    arfff

    i really wanna have kids someday, but if my future partner doesn't want one then I'm okay too

    if i ever have kids
    i'm going to rise mine as the gender they're assigned at birth UNTIL they decided that it doesn't fit them and they wanted to be treated as what they see fit themselves...
    THEN
    i'll start raising them as what they see fit

    i know how it feels to live under social repression and forced to act the way they expect me to. I don't want my kids to experience that
    because
    it was -in my opinion- violate their right as a human being
     
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    As neutral or genderless as possible. I'd rather not force my kid to be in a box of what society expects out of them.
     
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    This only exception is my partner telling me they don't want kids is a deal breaker
     
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    I will raise them neutrally until they told me what gender they were, and then go from there.
     
  9. Acm

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    I would just raise them as their biological sex, and if they end up identifying as a different gender, that's fine. I wouldn't force them to play with certain toys/wear gender specific clothes, but I don't see any problem with raising them according to their physical sex.
     
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    I will expose them to both and whatever they seem drawn to is fine with me. I plan to adopt and foster someday and plan to be open to LGBT youth after seeing what a hard time so many have
     
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    Anyways, I would raise him/her as his/her biological gender. BUT I am very much willing to change the way I raise and treat him/her when he/she tells me that he/she is comfortable with the way I raise and treat him/her.
     
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    No, I just use the plant example because... it's one of the most bizarre genders I've seen claimed. I just... to this day I am dumbfounded... I am not calling somebody "sprout" for a pronoun.
     
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    You'll always be my little plant <3
     
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    As whatever gender they are assigned, but try to build a connection so that if a discrepancy arises, it won't cause problems. 99% of people are cisgender, so it would be statistically unwise to expect otherwise. But I would hate for my kid to feel the need to hide that they are not as they appear.
     
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    I would raise my child as the gender they are born as. If when they are older they identify differently then I will adjust my parenting to fit what they decide to identify as at that time. :slight_smile:
     
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    If I ever had a child, I would raise them genderless. Gender boxes can go to hell.
     
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    Neutral. Let them wear what they want, act as they want.
    I'll treat them as the gender they see themselves as.
     
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    I will raise them as the gender they were born, for the most part. For example, they will wear clothes that match their sex. There is no reason why I would send my son to school in girl clothes and subject him to bullying and psychological trauma, while turning him into an outcast, unless there is a very good reason (like if he is actually transgender and is a girl and then we will work on it -- note I believe there is a certain level of maturity that needs to be reached before making that decision). Even if he asked, I probably would not allow it -- again unless I felt he was legitimately a she. However, things like toys I will probably let them play with what they prefer and get them toys based on their preferences. I wouldn't make my son play or watch sports either, etc. I wouldn't raise them with an emphasis on gender but I will try my best to raise them to fit in with society and be well adjusted if possible.
     
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    I would raise them like individual human beings. I would encourage them to question everything. I'd be good at teaching my kids about the world, and providing emotional support, but I might be at risk of coddling them.

    I actually haven't decided if it would be better to:

    1) focus on raising them gender neutrally

    OR

    2) focus on raising them as their biological sex

    I just wonder which is most important.

    Either way, I would do my best to respect their gender identity, if/when they told me about it. Although I'd help them understand when to "pick their battles." I wouldn't want them to let their pride get the better of them because they could end up seriously hurt.

    Even although my parents gave me a lot of freedom, I would've preferred if they raised me more gender neutrally, from the beginning. I wouldn't want my kids to feel they need to take drastic action, in order for me to listen to them.