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What flaws attract you?

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  1. BreezyB

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    So, what attributes/characteristics that may generally be considered a flaw attract you?

    For me I've noticed that I have a thing for guys who lack general knowledge. Why? I dont know.
    Like with a guy I used to talk to we would get in miscellaneous disagreements all the time (over simple things like his disbelief that all cows are female and that Atlanta isnt a state/what state its in) I cant explain it but it only made him more attractive to me.
     
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    I find vulnerability to be incredibly attractive.
     
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    That's a good one.

    I like this as well, I think having a partner be naive around certain topics can be cute, and also give for interesting conversations.

    I prefer guys who aren't muscular, but skinny or average. (not that I find muscular guys unattractive, unless it's body building style, then I might )
     
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    Not something that really is a flaw. But maybe being religious is more than fine for me (not every kind of religious certainly). This is something that is considered not fine among irreligious people (I'm irreligious).

    I have general knowledge and I can't think of having a partner without general knowledge. That'd cause them too many mistakes when we are speaking and they'd seem a bit stupid to me. Being smart is one of the most important things that attracts me.
    But if they don't have any knowledge about today's politics and don't know even who is the president, That'd be cute I guess.
     
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    I think it's possible to lack a lot of general knowledge, but still be smart / have high intelligence. Intelligence is one of my favourite attributes as well.
     
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    Of course. That'd be an insult I think, if I meant that. I said It'd probably seem like that to me. Not stupid. Sorry. I don't know the right word. But seemingly anyway.

    PS Being smart has a very wide range of definitions. So, It can't be even defined properly.
     
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    I agree, context can help narrow some of them down though.

    Could simplify it to IQ, but I never really liked the concept of IQ :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Exactly. It's fair to say someone with more general knowledge is probably more intelligent, If that's what you mean.
    Aye, It can't be trusted for me too. :slight_smile:)
     
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    I agree with this one entirely. I hate the body builder look. A toned body is nice ofc but too much of any good thing is bad.

    A year or two I would have said the same thing, but idk ig I've developed a new taste over time through my experiences. But it is mandatory for my partner to have some knowledge of what is happening politically and why. If they lack it then they're just going to have to bear through my mini lessons everytime something wild occurs
     
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    I see... I didn't have many partners. So... not sure.
    Hahah. No, It's not fun here. Having knowledge about political history, philosophy, etc is something I like myself. But I dislike involving in daily politics.
     
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    I reckon I go for people whose personality presents a challenge. Like, really deeply flawed on the outside but if you know how to navigate it you find a really amazing person. I guess, a marmite personality? Someone you either love or hate depending on how you experience them? No idea if that makes sense.
     
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    Someone who can be quite rebellious but has a sweet side hidden away that only comes out at certain moments.
     
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    a shy smile
     
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    Being introspective is a big one for me. I don't think someone would like me for very long if they weren't at least somewhat introspective themselves. :slight_smile:
     
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    Someone who seems to need saving gets me every time. I am actually trying to break that as my boyfriend isn’t like that. He is the first person I have dated ever to not need saving in some way.

    I know it’s my defender personality that’s drawn to it.
     
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    Not me. I might have been a smidge like this at one time. I've learned to stay away. I've known more women than men like this. Now, this trait is very easy for me to spot early on.

    I've seen that people who need saving can be clingy, needy, and have a lot more problems than meets the eye that you can never can fix, so you will never be saving them.

    I like traits like being accessible, dependable, and down to earth. Flakes get the boot almost instantly.

    Someone has to be attractive to me but people who are too attractive in a perfect way are hardly ever accessible and down to earth, so that's also wasted time.

    We've all got problems. It's just that you want to handle only as much as you can handle, and not any more so than that so you don't crack.