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What does it mean to say someone is not necessarily LGBT

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by MerryGoRoundMi, Nov 23, 2021.

  1. MerryGoRoundMi

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    Like I know sometimes someone may something like "Oh I've never been attracted to men in any way or at all , but it could occur in the future or am open to it" and I hear folks say they are not necessarily LGBT. What does it mean exactly
     
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    It sounds like they're saying they have no reason to believe they're LGBT, but wouldn't see it as the end of the world if they later discovered they were. Maybe it's their way of saying they're accepting of LGBT people and don't see it as a bad thing.
     
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    MerryGoRoundMi.....The first part sounds like someone could be Bi and aren't interested in men now, but could be in the future. The second part is confusing, unless it's someone who is still trying to figure out they're sexuality. Honestly I don't think I've ever heard either of those statements before!
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Let me use Josh Hutcherson, who a while back said he was open to the possibility of dating a man if the right guy came buy but has never found one attractive before. And folks said he was not necessarily LGBT. What does that mean
     
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    I think they're saying "not necessarily" because we can't know what was in Josh's head when he said it. Does he ever fantasize about hypothetical guys and he's just never met anyone in real life who turns his head? Or is he just saying it wouldn't upset him if some guy turned his head down the road, but he's never fantasized or been attracted to anyone ever before? It's hard to say. If he's got some dream guy in his head, it's vaguely possibly he's on the spectrum a little. If he's never had anything, then he may just plain be heterosexual. We can't say without being in his head.
     
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    MerryGoRoundMi.....I haven't heard the Josh Hutcherson quote before. If he truly feels that way then he can't be entirely straight no matter what others may say! :old_smile:
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    Or is he just saying it wouldn't upset him if some guy turned his head down the road, but he's never fantasized or been attracted to anyone ever before.
    If it's this, then he's just straight and being open minded, correct?

    and is there a diff between saying he's not and not necessarily?
     
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    That’s the whole point. We can’t know right now. And that’s ok. That’s his to know. If and when he wants us to know, he’ll tell us.
     
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    I had a different question though:

    "is he just saying it wouldn't upset him if some guy turned his head down the road, but he's never fantasized or been attracted to anyone ever before."
    If it's this, then he's just straight and being open minded, correct?
     
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