What do you wear on your first gay date? :)

My recommendation would be to wear a smile, first and foremost (and avoid stuff that can get trapped in teeth, like spinach, LOL)

As for what to wear, I am as useless as can be in that department...except be yourself, because being yourself is absolutely the easiest thing to wear!

Best of luck!

 

Wear something nice, but don't wear something that you would feel uncomfortable in. If you don't feel comfortable in the way you dress, you will probably not feel comfortable on the date.

Top tip: Don't order spinach!

 

I agree with the above comments. Don't wear something you're not comfortable in. My first date I wore some nice "dress" type jeans and a cute colorful top. We went to a really nice restaurant (didn't require dresses for women and suit and tie for men, but a dress casual type atmosphere). Also, dress for what ever the plans for the date are. If you're going to a nice restaurant, may want to dress it up a little more. If you're going hiking, may want more hiking gear . You get my drift. If that is suitable for the planned date, it sounds great to me. No need to go over the top, be and dress yourself. It'll help you be more comfortable in all ways.

 

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It depends where you are going or what you're doing, always wear something you are comfortable in if you don't like skirts or dresses then don't wear one.

Or you could even ask your date what they're planning to wear to the date just tell them that you've a few outfits planned and your struggling to pick so would like to know what they're wearing to the date.

I met my date nearly 2 week ago week had a walk and took some time to get to know each other instead of being sat in a formal setting we both spoke about what we were to wear plus it was going to be nice weather so didn't want to be to hot... It worked out ok because we both felt comfortable and at ease

 

On a more humorous note, this is how I read your post, and my thoughts were that I was surprised to learn that the lesbian community had the notion of top and bottom

As to what to wear, wear something comfortable and appropriate to the date venue. On my first date during my coming out high, I went very casual, brought him flowers, and got lucky

 

Honestly, I've spent way too much time thinking about what I will wear. But anyway, I'm thinking of some green cargo pants, black t-shirt, a small pride bracelet, and to finish it off, some cute black strappy sandals. Just a nice clean relaxed casual look. That date is actually happening next weekend! Yay!!!!

 

Sienna, lolololol!

Jedi, when Iwent on that date a couple of weeks ago, I wore the shirt that I felt like I had looked best in during the previous week. The main thing Iwent for was something that Ifelt comfortable in and I looked good in. When she showed up, and Iassume she has been on several more dates than I have, she was dressed like me on most days, lol. Button down in a color that was good for her. Like, definitely had the hygine, but not overly dolled up. Of course, we were just doing lunch, but it seemed like we both just wore things we felt good in.

Of course, given my lack of second date, grain of salt? *sigh* I have decided to just sit back and do nothing on that one. Maybe if I miraculously lose 20 pounds after Icome out to family, I'll text her again?

 

Lmao Sienna. It depends on who you are dating. I am definitely a bottom for my butch.

 

I don't know. Hopefully, my wife will pick out my clothes!

 

Well, I haven't had huge success dating so far, but from my experience going out with girls who I assume know more about this than I do, I think your outfit sounds perfect! I have noticed that most people tend to wear something nice but casual. I showed up overdressed several times and it was so embarrassing! You'd think, being a woman myself, that I would know what they're thinking, but I don't have a freaking clue! Sigh. I used to think I was just socially awkward, and then I realized I'm gay and thought maybe my awkwardness was just because I didn't realize I was a lesbian! But no, as it turns out, I'm just a socially awkward lesbian. Anyway, I've enjoyed reading your posts and hearing your story! Best of luck on your date!!!

 

OP, good luck on your date! I totally agree with the others that you should wear whatever you feel comfortable and confident in.

I wore a somewhat fancy dress on my first and only casual date with a lesbian a few years ago. The first thing she said to me was 'I guess you will never be the guy in the relationship' (she was in jeans and t-shirt). Let's just say that dress is no longer with me now

 

I think you've got it covered. Here's my two cents. If she's younger try and wear something that makes you look younger.

 

Wear what you'd wear on a straight date

 

No date planned...just a fantasy I suppose. I am coming out in the next week so it will be awhile before any "dating." I was joking around a bit! I do think it is great for you that you have reached this level of direction that you are thinking of the details of a first date.