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What do you think of quiet people?

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  1. Ameryllis

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    Just curious, since I myself am quiet. :3
     
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    What is "quiet"?
    I'm shy, so if someone doesn't speak much I'll default to the assumption that they are, too. I'll be friendly and am more likely to engage a conversation with them because to me, they're less intimidating than louder people.

    I suppose if someone never speaks at all, I'll think that's strange.
     
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    They're the only people I can talk to, really. I'm way too introverted to interact with noisy, popular people.
     
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    This, and with my social anxiety loud obnoxious people kind of scare me! XD
     
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    Same. Except I won't usually engage with quiet people who are really attractive to me since I feel kind of intimidated/awkward talking to them. There are definitely some cute quiet people that I have not talked to yet. :dry:
     
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    I'm loud and outgoing, I could probably hold a decent conversation with a chair if I had to. I can't say that quiet people bother me because I probably won't notice them. I can't stand when I'm at a bar, club or whatever social venue and I try to strike up a conversation with someone who's too shy to say more than 3 words at a time... Drives me apeshit.
     
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    They're fine. I've known extremely quiet people that will talk once in a blue moon and people who are somewhat quiet but can engage in a conversation. At least as a friend, we could go to the movies and they wouldn't talk through it, so that's a plus.
     
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    I like them (us). You don't bother me, and I won't bother you. :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm quiet more often than not. I can be quite engaging when inspiration strikes tho.
     
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    I think as a quiet person myself they are often misunderstood as unfriendly and a loner. That perception followed me all my life and i even got called out by teachers for being too quiet. Just because someone is quiet does not mean they cannot become friendly and comfortable later on. Maybe they are quiet because they are surrounded by homophobic attitudes like I was or they are just naturally shy at first. But no people often want to assume the worst out of someone who is quiet and I got that attitude throughout my school life. I just pray perceptions ends because it so unfair and greatly affected my life when I tried to make friends and connections as best as I could.
     
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    I've always been the 'quiet' one but just bc I only say sth when it's important and I rly have to say sth. Most people talk without content and just bc of talking or the feeling of having to talk. Nothing wrong with that ofc but I can't rly handle that.
    So, I think being quiet is totally ok but you should be able to say sth when it's important and necessary.
     
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    I'm rather introverted myself, so I don't tend to judge or make assumptions about quiet people.
     
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    They tend to escape my notice in lieu of their quietness. So, generally I don't think anything of them. Unless they are unnaturally quiet.
     
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    As a quiet person myself, I certainly don't mind them. I just hate the feeling that I get with some people that I should talk more. Like I'm sorry that I'm not a social butterfly. I'm just naturally a shy person. I can be talkative, but I'm only like that around people I'm closest to. If I don't know a person that well, I tend to be much more quiet around them.
     
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    I think we'd get along well together!

    Also, enjoy your posts in general; they tend to make me laugh and smile :slight_smile:

    But I don't mind quiet sorts...I try to draw them out of their shells gently. At first =p

    Oddly, I work in a library, and sometimes, it's SO quiet, I feel like I'm some sort of giant, slow-motion aquarium, and it makes me really, really sleepy and bored...
     
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    Same >.>
     
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    I still remember that sub teacher in High School talking about loner type people in class and it was a small class and i said no I am not loner in part of the discussion and the sub teacher said "Oh no you are a lone"r and another teacher in the room agreed with him at the same. It was embarrassing and completely wrong.
     
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    That's horrible! :0
     
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    I've always been known as shy and quiet. These days I'm a little more confident with talking, and when I'm not at work or anything like that I have no trouble talking to people, say if I hang out with somebody and they bring another friend along. I'll feel awkward for 30 seconds, but as long as the other person at least smiles at me then I'm all good!
    At work or volunteering I take a little longer to come out of my shell with people, which isn't a huge deal because I can just focus on my work. It's when I start to like talking to the other person a lot that I have to be careful to stay on track and keep working :')

    I like other quiet people. I'm probably more likely to talk to a more talkative person though. Since I'm quiet and a bit shy and awkward myself, it's good to talk to somebody who is comfortable talking to anyone and everyone. Not that I won't talk to quiet people as well, but it can be harder sometimes to know whether they're just quiet, or don't like me haha. With louder, more talkative people, it's easier to tell if they like me and so I feel more at ease.