What Do You Think of Polyamory?

Personally, I don't like the idea of being in a relationship with someone who's polyamorous because for me, that'd probably create a ton of jealousy and anxiety for me as well as probably some self loathing but as for other couples who are poly, if they don't have a problem with it then I don't know why i should have a problem with their polyamorous relationship.

 

It might be a douchy thing to say, but I don't have a problem with people who are poly as long as they don't hit on my partner and respect that we're monogamous (since it's happened before where people who are poly tried to push that shit on us).

 

My only thing is that if one of them conceived a kid. How would the kid feel later on in his teens that his parents are in a polygamous relationship?

 

I wouldn't want to be in polygamous relationship, but I don't care if other people do. It's just not my thing~.

 

Say no more lol. My last relationship ended up breaking apart over my boyfriend questioning monogamy in general. Well that, and a couple of other issues, but that was the tipping point. Now granted I've come to the realization that I could be in a relationship with a polyamorous person and I have no issue with the concept. This doesn't mean that I'll never feel any sort of jealousy but I think that's only natural. Me personally, I could not see myself being unfaithful unless it was in a relationship like this, in which case I would try to embrace it. But I'm naturally strongly monogamous.

 

One spouse,my husband is enough.I am not into it

 

Its fine.

 

I'm morally fine with it if It's what others choose to do. It only starts to piss me off when It's a sexist/double standard situation such as a one penis policy or one vagina policy.

I myself could never be in one, simply because I feel like I can only emotionally handle monogamy. I agree that monogamy is a choice, It's just one I prefer to make.

 

I think if you want to date a bunch of people then cool, but don't get married and have kids and be poly. That's not cool for the kids.

"Who's that mom?" "Oh, that's my ...uh...special friend!"

Yuck.

 

I think it's something that all parties need to be open and honest about~ For me, I'm in a relationship with a guy and he is open to my polyamory, as long as he's the only man involved... He isn't polyamorous, but he understands that I am and that I really am much more into women than into men... we are both on the same page and talked about what is and what isn't considered "cheating" to him and what he felt completely okay with, so I feel good about it. I think the real key is communication and understanding... if everyone involved isn't feeling it and is really a total monogamist, that's when those relationships can't work out. I've had women who haven't been into it, even though they never see that guy and we don't do threesomes or interact at all with other parties, and I understand it's not something that everyone is comfortable with (truly a shame, lol).

Again, what's right for one is not right for all, and communication is the only way we can express ourselves and learn about others and our relationships with them. I do always feel kind of weird telling people this, though, because they usually just think I'm lying and I'm a cheater and no one would be okay in this kind of relationship, so... it can be difficult to talk about it... I feel more judgement saying I'm poly than saying I'm bi or pan, tbh... ;.;

 

What other people do is their business, so I'm neither for nor against it. It may have unique potential for the persons involved, yet it may also pose unique challenges.

For me, though, I could not date a poly person nor be in such a relationship dynamic. I am intensely monogamous, so it would not work. I couldn't deal with a partner who I wasn't enough for, nor the balance of affections between several people. It's all or nothing for me, always has been. If I fall in love, it will probably only be with one person in the span of my life for whom I would give my absolute and singular devotion.

 

Brings too much stress and drama into all relationships. Plus, the whole STD issue with bringing in new people. As Sky notes above, you're kids must always be the first priority.

 

I think it works for whoever it works for. Personally it's not my cup of tea. I'm too selfish for that kind of relationship.

 

Not for me.

I don't get interested in more than one people at a time. When I crush on someone, everyone else becomes friendzoned (at least, for the time being). I also get a bit jealous when they get attention from people they could consider dating because I'd really want to be with them. I'd much prefer a single relationship where I could trust my partner not to cheat and they could trust me to do the same.

As for poly, I don't have a problem with it if everyone consents. The thing becomes complicated when you bring in marriage and kids in it, however. I don't think you should be able to be officially married to more than one person. There are benefits to being married usually and no I don't think you should get more. Also, the papers would get very complicated. As for the kids, well, that's a more grey area, but mostly, they should be able to tell who their parents are.

 

I was almost in a polyamorous relationship. As long as the people involved are all okay with it and happy then it's fine in my book.

Proceed with your life.

 

I don't think humans as a whole are actually meant to be monogamous. The fact that many people are is a social thing. I've never been in a poly relationship but I'm quite sure I wouldn't mind.

As for the kids question, I think it actually ties into the bigger issue of what "normal parents" are. I mean, bigots use the exact same "think of the children!" logic to invalidate gay marriage or even single parenthood. As long as you're open with the kids and treat it as something unremarkable instead of something you have to hide, they are unlikely to see a problem with it.
In fact there are plenty of kids with stepparents. I don't really see how this is all that different.

 

Nah, I'm far too insecure to get into anything but a monogamous relationship.