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What age do you want to get married at?

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  1. Joe2001

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    Just a random question since I'm bored.

    If you're single or not yet married, what age do you want to get married at?
     
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    I don’t think you can plan these things...having a “target” in mind can lead people into marrying the wrong person just to achieve their goals.
     
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    Marriage scares me, but if it didn't, I'd wanna get married in my 20s or 30s. Wide range, I know, but I usually don't like to think about it.
     
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    Wanted to get married in my 20's, but since I'm 26 and no where near marriage, let alone a relationship, I want to get married in my 30s
     
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    I'm in no hurry at all - As long as I get commitment and the legal common law benefits, I'd be fine being in a relationship for a long time without being married. I want a job with a decent salary and live common law for awhile prior.

    Rather than say I want to get married by x age, I'll say I probably shouldn't get married before 27 (almost 24 rn) lol
     
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    Well, let’s first find the right person and be sure that you really want to create a household together and possibly have a family with this perticular person and that you share the approach to these goals.

    If I met the right person, I would want to get married, even, say, now. But it doesn’t realistically look like I will be in a relationship anytime soon, because social life at my university sucks and I have little free time to socialise elsewhere. Then since meeting the right person to establishing a relationship like that, it will take a couple of years, so two years from now, graduation, three years to build a relationship, five years in total. It gives the optimistic estimation of being 30 by the time I marry. Of course, it might happen later... 40 would be pretty darn sad but possible.
     
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    Well !! Marriage kinda scares me and it doesn't always goes as planned but if find the right person maybe in 30s
     
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    Late 20s/early 30s
     
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    Honestly, if I found someone I could trust to be vulnerable enough, my only criteria is that I get married before I am too old to enjoy it. The chances of that happening are infinitesimally small, however. People just don't look past the surface very often, and just getting them to see me as a human being, let alone as a romantic partner is a lot of work.
     
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    I got married at 30, because I felt I had met the right person and we wanted to be together.

    My only regret is that I didn't explore my sexuality more before we got married -- I didn't even tell her I was bi until recently. I still can explore those things but it's much more complicated because we have to work out now how it changes our relationship.

    So my advice is not to worry too much about when -- the only reason age matters in a marriage target is for childbearing before menopause, and if you do want a family there are other options than that (especially for same-sex couples who would never have been able to have a child the "traditional" way).

    Worry instead about how you want to feel with another person, and what kind of relationship would make you happy long-term. Do you need to make changes to yourself to make sure you can be supportive for the kind of person you would like to be with? If so then make those changes to yourself deliberately, even if they're small things like "dress nice" and "take showers" and "make the bed" or big things like "listen actively and be an emotional support for your partner". :slight_smile:

    Then when you are ready and meet the right person (or people, hey that's a thing too) you can go for it.
     
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    When I was a kid 25 seemed a good goal but now I’m 28 and have yet to find an age appropriate lesbian in my town and there are none. I spent one year in college and was too scared to go to the LGBT club so I never really dated. I don’t think I’ll ever get married now, I have a disability that will leave me unable to move in like 15 or 20 years if I’m lucky, and I don’t want to saddle anyone with that responsibility.
     
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    I don't want to get married.

    If I did, it'd have to be with the right person, and I doubt I'll ever meet them.
     
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    I don’t want to get married until I’m 30. I’m currently 21, but I hope to find a life partner by 25-27. I’m in no rush! But also need someone to give me attention and affection lol. This is based on the fear that my marriage will end in divorce, which given my own parents...really scares me.
     
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    I’m 14, so never thought of that before. 25, I think??