Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by BiBoyToy, Mar 2, 2021.
I'm not surprised that bisexual is in second place. It's pretty far behind though.
I think bisexuality is definitely under-represented, but I voted asexuality because the LGBTQ community is so sex positive generally that if I were asexual I would probably feel quite uncomfortable at times for not sharing that attitude. I've also seen aces accused of just being damaged or sexually traumatised and I don't think it would be easy to come out if I had to anticipate that kind of judgement from my own community. Overall I think people could be a lot more accepting and supportive of ace persons and show more respect for their asserted indentities.
I think more of the problem with bi representation is not necessary a lack thereof, but a general misrepresentation of bi people. There is a lot of biphobia in my experience, and a lot of it comes down to a fear that a bisexual person might "choose" het relationships over gay relationships. The thing is, if anything is likely to lead a bi person doing so, it's definitely biphobia in queer communities they are trying to be a part of. I know it took me a lot longer to realise I'm gay than it might have otherwise simply because many lesbians rejected me on the basis of my bisexual label. It's not easy to figure out your sexual identity when the group you feel an affinity for keep telling you that you aren't valid.
So for those reasons I think it's probably an even split. There's a lot of similarity between the way aces and bis are regarded in queer communities, but aces are only recently getting the recognition they deserve so I think there's a longer road towards acceptance for them.
It’s only been a few months since I accepted and came out as bisexual and my knowledge about others who identify as bisexual was extremely limited. I soon discovered that bisexuals made up a rather large percentage of the LGBTQI+ community. Naturally I started paying much closer attention to news, information and in particular the negative ways bisexuals are often portrayed in entertainment & media. It makes me wonder whether or not this image issue is so much a matter of being misrepresented or maybe just not well understood. It took me 39 years just to understand my own bisexuality.