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unconventional ways of coming out.

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  1. Jameeees

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    people come out in the way that makes them feel most comfortable, sometimes it's just casual or sometimes its a more serious discussion but there are more unconventional ways of coming out and I wanna hear about some of yours! :grin:

    for me it would be the time i typed up "hey (friends name) I'm James" on my graphics calculator during math class.
     
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    I will always keep it a secret. If I did have to come out, it would be when I have taken over the world, wearing a LONG GOLDEN RED CAPE, with a HUGE crown made out of diamonds, on top of a huge unicorn with 3 heads + with a tail of a snake, holding a huge emerald sword in one hand and a magic book in the other, singing I'm gay, how u like me now!

    The entire world will be in flames. People bow to me. I will be protected by hooded demonic angels and monsters of the underworld!

    I will be laughing like a maniac too!
     
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    that sounds epically majestic my dude i hope to see you reach that goal one day:crown::ok_hand:
     
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    Jameeees.....I don't know if this counts as unconventional, but it certainly was not the way I had planned to come out to a former student...

    .....There was one coming out that I really cherish. I had a former student who I was sure was gay when he was in high school. When he went to college, some of his Facebook posts confirmed what I had thought. I always liked him and admired how he handled his sexuality in high school. The way he dressed, the way he acted, he was just a unique person and all of the kids respected him and accepted him with no bullying, etc. I ran into him at Wal-Mart one day after he had been gone for about a year. We greeted each other and began to low-key chat. I wanted to tell him how much I respected him when he was in high school, but I was making a real mess of the conversation. I beat around the bush for a while and was just confusing him when I finally said "What do you think of the LGBTQ Community" (that was such a stupid thing to say) He paused and slowly said, "I'm part of it". I realized that I had just kind of corned him into coming out to me and had no idea how to respond...and then my mouth took flight all on its own and I just said; "Me too". His eyes got really wide and then he grabbed me into a huge hug and started crying! I had been his teacher for 6 years in junior high and high school. I have only told a few former students and then only after I had retired. I don't think he ever dreamed that one of his teachers might be gay! It was absolutely the last thing that I would have thought would happen that day...but it definitely made my day and his too!
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    that's a lovely story I'm glad for the both of you. it can mean a lot to have someone come out with you its like a wright of your chest.
     
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    Out of a cake, maybe?
     
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    I've thought about doing that but i fear the cake wouldn't turn out well I'm not good at baking
     
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    One of the funniest came out of a book I read where the author collected interviews of people talking about their experiences in high school (back in the 1980s and 90s, very different times). One person left a post-it note on the refrigerator for his mother that said "Hi, mom. I've gone out to play basketball. Be home by 6. PS: I'm gay."

    I admire the nonchalance.
     
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    i like that too. sometimes the simple ways work the best i hope it went well for him
     
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    I walk through the supermarket and always pause to look at the different cake mixes and frosting. I move on from the baking aisle. I plan to eventually bake one. I did it once when I was younger. It was okay. It was edible.

    The cake I plan on making will probably be chocolate with strawberry or orange frosting. I'm starting to psych myself up for this personal milestone.
     
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    Use a recipe and follow it precisely. Cooking things like stews and soups is an art but baking is a science. Every ingredient in a baked item is there for a reason and in the exact proportions.
     
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    I have a funny feeling that I will take my secrets to the grave, however if I were to come out, I'd send this clip to everyone I know (sidenote: I don't know how to make clips from other videos but for reference it is between 16:32 and 16:39)

     
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    okay well that last one didnt go as planned, how do I delete my own posts?
     
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    I sent my mom a text apologizing for the fact I wouldn’t be able to fulfill the hopes and dreams she had for me(ie continue the bloodline).
    With work, I kinda came out in the email I sent to discuss a “major life change” in a meeting with my managers.
     
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    well i came out a little, told my fiance that i would look better in that dress, so she dared me to wear it, i did and told her that this feels more like me
     
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    Telling my best friend I'm gay and so is your husband. I'm joking. Haha.
    No, I think if somebody asked I would tell them. For me and only me, my privacy is my own. I know but I am not really an activist type in this area. Sorry.
     
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    I sent my sister a Facebook message saying “FYI I’m gay - just thought I’d keep you in the loop”. She responded that I could talk about it if I needed to - and that she’s cool with it (and she that told my brother in law and nephew and they’re cool with it too). My one coworker that knows thought it was hilarious that I did it through Facebook and not even an actual text message (my sister and I get along well, but we’re not super close, I realized after that I don’t actually even have a phone number for my sister ).
     
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    Just send 'em a link. Too bad it's obvious from the title.
     
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    I get the feeling I may never come out too. My reason, I will lose everything and most probably end up homeless. BUT your way of coming out sounds beautiful and amazing! X
     
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    I haven't done this but one I thought of was playing The Game of Life and when it's time to get married select a same-sex partner since they have pink and blue pegs. A version I play online on Steam lets you pick the gender of your partner as well.