Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by BiBoyToy, Mar 23, 2021.
Are you primarily straight with gay curiosity or primarily gay with straight curiosity?
interesting question, I thought for many years I was a primarlly straight with a gay curiosity but right now I have to say I m primarily gay with straight curiosity....
Wow. Excellent question. I have lived pretty much my whole life as a straight man; have been married for more than 30 years and that's not going to change. So I guess it is the former but the "gay curiosity" is defintely emerging more and more in later years.
..exactly, in my case I get more curious now than before...When you first started to feel the curiosity?
I think I am bi but I just kissed one man and I never kissed a woman
The way I understand it is physical/sexual versus affectional. Bisexuals have the mix factor in common. They don't often agree on sexual and affectional preferences for the genders. This can make it hard to befriend other bisexuals. When you find a bisexual person whose mix is about the same as yours, it's a lot easier to have good discussions and support each other as friends. This boils down to bisexuals not having as much as they'd like in common with other bisexuals.
I'm primarily straight with gay curiosity. I identify as bisexual and not bi-curious though. I've had same-sex experiences, which I've enjoyed.
Oops, sorry. I didn't realize you weren't asking me. Haha!
Since you did answer, do you mind if I put you on the spot? *wink*
Can you expand on how you “enjoyed” the same-sex encounters? Was it primarily physical gratification or orgasmic release? Was it the thrill of trying something new? Was it the feeling of intimacy or closeness with another person? Was/were there some other facet(s) of “enjoy”?
I think if you unpack the word “enjoy” you might be closer to understanding your emergent bisexuality and possibly your sexual orientation itself in greater perspective.
I believe that “joy” is the byproduct of the spirit, not the mind. Joy happens in the present moment and the now, and it comes from a deeper place than simple perception. In my opinion what brings us joy tells us something about our innate self. So, what you find joy in is what you innately are, and sexual and romantic orientation are also indicated by joy.
I’m starting to think I’m bi but through the Trans channel or should I say some sort if gender fluidity ...like sometimes I’ve woken up in the morning and felt like there was suddenly a woman screaming to come out of my body as if I was possessed lol then my bisexuality or more precisely my same sex attractions rise up. Otherwise if I’m feeling in tune with my male body I have opposite sex attraction.
If that makes sense ...
I feel the same thing....
Absolutely not, I don't mind if you put me on the spot. I honestly love answering questions about my sexuality. I think the questions help me think through it, which helps me come to a better understanding of my bisexuality.
Woops, I hit 'post reply' on accident. I'll respond to the questions in the next post.
Sure thing. If I'm correctly understanding the difference between physical gratification and orgasmic release, I would say it was a combination of both. However, I would say it was more physical gratification. Most of the time him and I did anything (we were something like friends with benefits) I didn't even ejaculate. It was usually centered around pleasuring him. Although, there were many times I reached orgasmic release without touching myself or even him doing anything to me. The physical gratification and pleasing him was enough to bring me to orgasmic release (the first several times at least). If that all makes sense.
The first time we did anything other than cuddling and holding hands, a large part of it was definitely the thrill of trying something new, for me. I'm not sure if it was also his first time doing something with another guy but we were rather young so I assume so. It was also the thrill of doing something with and pleasing someone I really liked.
A large part of it was definitely the feeling of intimacy and closeness with another person. Before we ever did anything other than holding hands and cuddling, I would get an extreme feeling of enjoyment and satisfaction just from cuddling with him. I also do get a large sense of enjoyment and satisfaction from intimacy and closeness with women though.
One thing I did notice is that pleasuring him gave me far more joy and excitement than him pleasuring me (giving oral, for example). I also did have very strong feelings for him and looking back was borderline in love with him.
Definitely! I really appreciate you asking those questions, if you have any other questions, feel free to ask! I would love to answer them to the best of my ability.
I hope this all made sense! I look forward to hearing what you have to say.
I think that's very interesting. I feel like I'm kind of in the opposite situation. I think because I'm bisexual, I sometimes have mild fantasizes about being a woman. As apposed to having fantasies of being a woman resulting in bisexuality, if that makes sense.
Another way to put it, is that I'm starting to think I might be trans but through the bi channel. I've accepted it as nothing more than a fantasy that only has to do with straight porn though. I would consider myself comfortable in my cisgender male body.
I've always joke I was a 70/30 bi, slightly more interested in the opposite sex than the same sex.
I think I’m a bit more attracted to the opposite sex but very much attracted to the same as well. Some days I feel more straight and some days I feel more gay.
I can relate very much!
I would also consider myself somewhere right around 70/30, somewhat more attracted to the opposite sex as well.
I like how @Nickw describes his bisexuality. He defines himself as 100% gay and 100% straight. in those terms, I would consider myself something like 90% straight and 70% gay.
Interesting Analogy. Goes for straight and gay people too. Maybe it has to do with personality traits in general also. Two people who have very similar personalities. Often clash if both of are dominant and unrelenting. Or if they are both agreeable they may become friends but there won’t be any kind of attraction.