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Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by theamos13, Jul 20, 2018.

  1. DRobs

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    I'm working my way up to the top...
     
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    Not entirely sure what you mean, but gentle/passionate sex for gay people happens all the time. I think that is most of the sex that people have truly. Doesn't make you an outcast
     
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    I am a top !!

    I am 34 not that young, but I like mature guys and if teth aee a little chubby is so mych better.
     
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    I mean penetrative sex is of very little interest to me. I am attracted to males but I don't know how I would fit myself into the whole "top or bottom" paradigm. I'm not against the idea totally, but I don't place as much importance on it as most gay guys seem to and it's not primarily what interests me about being with a guy.
     
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    yeah I've been with only one guy in my whole life, wayyyyyy back when I was a teenager. but even before that when I would masturbate I was already sticking things up me bum to heighten my orgasms. given that Id say I'm primarily a bottom, never tried being a top, but I wouldn't want to go out not at least having tried it. *side note, I have been having some toy fun lately also, been trying to work my way up to this 12" jelly monstrosity I accidentally bought without realizing just how freaking big it really was. I just wanted something a little wider than the one I already had and paid no attention to the actual dimensions listed. maybe it was my subconscious... and of course returning it never popped into my head once... :smiling_imp:
     
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    have to agree. I’ve beem sticking things up my butt since I was a kid. I have a few nice dildos and plugs that I enjoy nothing too big though
     
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    I have done both but enjoyed bottom most-didn't think that would be the case but it was
     
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    It basically means someone who is gay but doesn't partake in some parts of gay sex, the main thing being not taking part in anal.
     
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    You don't really have to put a label on it. I like both, however my boyfriend doesn't enjoy receiving so he is always QB and I am WR. It works for us. Once you are with someone you will figure it out
     
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    Does size make a difference if you bottom
     
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    Definitely. Size, bend, motion of the ocean, all makes a difference
     
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    A similar topic on another thread seems to be relevant to this thread so I will post my response here as well albeit edited for this specific topic:

    After I first embraced my sexuality, I was primarily the receptive sex partner; and I completely and intensely enjoyed bottoming. As time went on, those intense feelings for being the receptive sex partner dissipated. As the emotional rush I got from being the receptive partner dissipated I embraced the top position and took on that role more and more. Today, I primarily top (although I still enjoy bottoming occasionally) and I find my orgasms when topping are now more intense and last longer than the orgasms I had previously while bottoming (even when taking into account the full body orgasms I had from being penetrated, which are no longer as intense as they once were).

    Interestingly, when I bottomed previously, the sex seemed to be all about my own pleasure and reaching orgasm for myself. And as a bottom I always felt as if I was always in control of the sex and dictated to my top partner the direction the physical intimacy went. As a top, I have done a complete 180 and my approach is now about bringing pleasure to my receptive partner rather than myself, and my own pleasure is directly connected to my partners pleasure. As a top, I am now feel more selfless during sex, where I get pleasure and satisfaction by putting the in work to satisfy my receptive partner. When my partner is satisfied, I am satisfied. My perceptions of being a top seem to go against conventional gay wisdom based on my perception talking with others, but this is how it works for me,

    My evolution did not occur over night, it happened over time. And the evolution was not a change that I consciously directed, it seemed to happen on its own.

    As I am also reflecting, such evolution certainly is also attributable to the emotional connection I have with my sex partner and the role my sex partner enjoys. My current partner whom I am exclusively dating is only a bottom, and the emotional and sexual chemistry we have is insanely intense with our respective roles. If my partner where a top, and if I had a strong emotional connection to him, I would probably be equally comfortable being the receptive partner under those circumstances just the same.
     
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    Yeah, they're tops and bottoms for lesbians. For me? I'm a switch or a "verse" I guess. I want to do both. This goes for women only though. If we're talking men that's a different story. There I want to be a top. I need to drive the action for sure if there is a man involved. But with a woman I am happy to let her take the reins if she wants.
     
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    It basically means anal or penetrative acts are off the table. So oral, dry humping, all that other stuff is fine. I'm a female "side" with men. I also like to top but only in the context of a "side". I will give penetration but not take it. With women I'm a switch.
     
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    I cross-dressed for several years and bottomed exclusively with guys, I miss it terribly but have lost the figure for it and lack the time and energy that I once devoted to being a girl. Now I top exclusively with guys... so things can change. II am chiefly attracted to femininity and crossdressers
    but it turns out, lately I have only been topping my older friend who is not effeminate at all. and I enjoy the dominance more than I thought I would, although I am dominant with women.
     
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    I don't even have sex because of an ED now but when I had no such problems, I used to love being on top much more. And now I think that I shoud try to use something like viagra/cialis, who knows, maybe it will help. Because living without sex makes no sense for me. I haven't thought that I'll miss it so much.
     
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    im a twink and im a bottom lol
     
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    While, I'm a virgin :slight_frown:, I think I would likely be a bottom person, at least at first. Maybe as I became more comfortable with sex, I might become a top.
     
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    I was a bottom for a long time. About 6 years ago I was in a sling room of a bath house and a guy came in and somehow he ended up in the sliing. I ended up taking his anal virginity that day and enjoyed it so if I am cruising the halls and see a ass in the air I will go stick something in it. I still prefer to be in the sling wit 10 guys lined up but being on top is ok. Would not want to only be a top, I like a mix.
     
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    I'm such a bottom that I will basically only top you if you promise to top me back.