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Top or bottom

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by theamos13, Jul 20, 2018.

  1. Jacob D

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    I'm a top but I have bottomed for my boyfriend occasionally. Not sure if that means I'm versatile or not. I'd say I'm a top though.
     
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    I think you could be considered Versatile, but with a predominant Top role. In my opinion, the criteria that defines the role we adopt is that if you enjoy doing that particule thing.

    For me, I consider myself as a Versatile. It depends on the other person, and if I'm in a mood to be a Top or a Bottom. More recently, I have been tending to prefer to be a Top, even though I enjoy both a lot!
     
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    I'd describe myself as versatile but with a bottom preference since I am a switch with submissive preference. It depends on who i'm with, that dynamic and my headspace at the time.
     
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    Nobody has said this yet but I am a side (mainly because I am asexual). I have tried topping and bottoming and enjoyed neither really. But I don't often find other sides.
     
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    I can identify with your situation. I’m 69 now but finally came out to myself and others when I was about 55 after being married for 25 years. I find I am mainly attracted to younger men as I feel like I’m only in my mid-20’s, sexually. And fortunately I have found that there are plenty of young men attracted to us more mature guys!
     
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    Could you please describe exactly what you mean by a “side?” Is that a term that means you are not sexual at all beyond maybe hugging and spooning? Thanks!
     
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    I disagree, I think it is just a perception. Tops are usually more masculine and straight looking/acting, and often way less out and open. Therefore bottoms, being more out for obvious reasons, seem to be more than they are.

    PS In Europe Tops are perceived to be the majority, people are more open to homosexuality than in the US.
     
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    I experienced it quite a few times. I think i enjoy the both, But still i like bottoming much more.
     
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    Criteria ? We need Criteria? Enjoy is whatever the position.
     
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    Labels - more definitions - for what if any good reason? Just do it - enjoy it - and labels be damned !
     
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    I never said we needed :slight_smile:. But these called "Roles" or "Labels" were defined by us, people (society), to define what we like and don't like. I don't think there's anything wrong or anything right for doing that. But, yes, like you said, what is important is to enjoy whenever the position will be.
     
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    Emergency responders; that’s my struggle
     
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    I’m versatile, but I prefer to bottom.
     
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    I've never had anal sex. I've always seen myself as a bottom, because I'm a skinny guy who doens't do a lot of physical activity, so I always saw myself as being a passive partner, but more recently I've been thinking of myself as more of a top than a bottom. If I'm gonna bend over and take it from someone he better be worth it.
     
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    Damn right!
     
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    I agree, although I think I’d do it while on my back. I’d like to see what is going on
     
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    Can confirm - much more fun this way.
     
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    Sure but missionary's only good for vanilla. You need to be properly 'mounted' for the dehumanizing sex deviants like me occasionally crave. But for the most part, lying on the back would probably be my favourite too because it's really intimate and versatile; allowing for kissing, caressing as well as spitting, slapping, choking (if anyone's into it) during intercourse.
     
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    I may never experience it, but I’ve definitely thought about it quite a bit
     
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    I've only recently come to the conclusion that I am gay (as I have no erotic feelings towards women, only emotional ones.) I am soft/fem/skinny attracted to other guys like me. I'm interested in more gentle/passionate forms of love making which i guess makes me a side. I can see my self being a kind of gay incel/outcast for this though. I may just end up in a nonsexual relationship with a woman to stave of loneliness. Obviously I would open with her about what and who I am.
     
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