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Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by theamos13, Jul 20, 2018.

  1. theamos13

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    I have been hearing recently that there are way more bottoms than tops.
    So this is a good place to ask
    Are you a top bottom or vers. This is even if you haven’t done it but want to


    Do lesbians have top bottoms too?
     
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    Versatile. Yea it seems like only about 1/3 guys are tops for some reason.
     
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    Haven’t actually done it with a guy, but I’m a bottom
     
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    More bottom than vers.
     
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    I'm a lesbian. And I feel that this term still applies. There's the one that takes the penetration and the one that gives it. If this term still applies, I'm most definitely a top (giving) , but technically speaking i'm a bottom, because i'd like the girl on top of me. lmao
     
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    I wonder if my thoughts would change if I actually do it. I’ve done it with women both ways and enjoyed it, but for some reason I have no desire to top a man.
     
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    I'm going through such a bottom hype right now. It's all I can think about. I'm literally obsessed with it to the point where I feel like I'll do it with even below average looking men, if I don't keep myself busy. I'm waiting for the 27th this month when my grandmother leaves for the US and my mom's off to some business trip so I can finally order some buttplugs and lube.

    I know I sound like a degenerate and this got more graphic than I'd intended but I need to unload every now and then so that I don't pounce on some unsuspecting guy (Just kidding I won't but the itch is real down there). Oh and do tops really mostly prefer twinks because I'll have to stop working out and starve myself to get there

    I think the more aggressive or active partner would be the lesbian top. Strap ons would also make it very clear but then again you have those 'double edged swords' types, as I like to call them so I'm pretty clueless.
     
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    I love my plugs.

    Different people like different things, I wouldn’t worry about not working out and please don’t starve yourself.
     
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    I have significant experience with toys and plugs. I’m sure it’s not nearly as fun as the real thing, but I find it very enjoyable
     
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    Haha yeah I won't but I do need to come to terms with the fact that gay doesn't equal white. I'm brown (Arab shade) and I'm constantly in a subconscious dilemma trying to fit into either the ripped white look or the effeminate white/East asian twink look. Gotta change that
     
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    Can't . Wait .
     
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    Enjoy!!! I always do
     
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    Yea try not to think like that too much. I think we all wish we looked like this or that or wish we could change something about ourselves. The healthy thing would probably be to accept yourself and just be the best you that you can be.
     
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    I think a lot of gay men are versatile or have a preference for bottoming. As @Destin mentioned above, around 1/3 have a preference to top.. Even so, I think the majority of tops have bottomed at least once.

    No! Some might, but it's not a general rule. Some "twinks" are tops.
     
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    I forgot to say what I was
    I am vers when I do. Not a real big fan of either
     
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    Vers bottom (would top in an absolute emergency).
     
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    In an emergency lol
     
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    We need this butthole filled stat!!!
     
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    :laughing: Trying to imagine those emergency scenarios.
     
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    Same I can see some situations that get out is control but emergency?
    Lobe the comment tho
     
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