First I'd just like to thank EC for proving such a safe place that I've gone from trembling at the thought of logging on to feeling comfortable posting in a matter of days. Just getting how I've felt for so long off my chest has done me a world of good. I was wondering for those of you who have known from being young that you were LGBTQIA+, but have either not come out (like me) or came out late in life, whether you wonder why it is you've never or didn't feel able to? Now I feel I can't due to being in a heterosexual marriage with children but given that I was 31 when I got married, and knew I was a lesbian from about 11, it's not as though I didn't have the opportunity beforehand. I have a lot LGBTQIA+ friends, many of whom I've known during their coming out process and yet I've never been brave enough. I wonder why it is they've managed to find the strength to do what I've failed to. I don't come from a religious background that would make it difficult, my family is fairly liberal, my friendship group has always supported each individual that's come out and yet I've always been too afraid.