Hi everyone, I've been a lurker on here for a couple of weeks and it's been such a huge help. The clarity with which so many of you discuss such complicated and emotional topics is amazing and has given me so many ah ha! moments. The first time I seriously considered the idea that I was a lesbian or bisexual was two months ago. I basically had a "love at first sight" experience with a woman, which started me seriously thinking about my past, my relationship with my husband and my attitude towards men and women. This is going to sound odd, I suppose, but it has been very easy for me to accept the fact that I am a lesbian, and it makes me feel good, basically. It explains so much. Once it *finally* dawned on me, I thought maybe I was bi for about two days, and figured out nope, I strongly prefer women. Yesterday I spoke to my best friend of 20 years (the only person I've told so far) about my whole process, kind of where I am, what I'm going to do about this, and she has basically taken the wind out my sails, so to speak. In my mind, I have figured out that I am gay, but she asked me, "Can't you go back in that you can go through this process of discovery and still choose to be with a man and just acknowledge that there is also this part of you?" I know she means well, but it really just made me feel stupid, immature, and that maybe I'm taking this idea of being a lesbian too far, that maybe I'm just excited about it right now; it's new and fresh, and it will calm down. I guess what I'm asking is has anyone experienced that? Does it make sense that there would be an initial rush of excitement about discovering something in you that you've always denied, and having that cloud your judgment? Do some people initially think they are gay, and then once it kind of sinks in and becomes less of a big deal, you realize you are bi sexual or not as gay as you thought? I hope this makes sense, and thank you for any and all responses.