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~This is me~

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by UMedusa, Oct 25, 2018.

  1. UMedusa

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    I just moved to a new place in August. I feel really isolated, and I isolated myself before moving to make it easier to leave. I am super glad I moved for tons of reasons, but breaking into a new place is something I'm taking slowly.

    Posting here is great! It is so nice to explore and connect with LGBTQ+ folks. I'm happy to be here and grateful for the kindness so far while I run my mouth all over the boards with my pent up thoughts. :slight_smile:

    I have kids. I am divorced. It was my decision, took a long time, and resulted in a lot of guilt and anxiety for a while there. I love being Out to most people, but I am not to most of my family, including my kids. I want to be but am not sure how to do that. So I figured it couldn't hurt to spend some time on an online forum such as this to get advice and glean stories from others.

    I have always been unequivocally sexually attracted to women since youth, but I identify as bisexual because I was able to repress that desire as a literal demon within. I survived a strange marriage for a reasonable chunk of my life, and have had romantic love for effeminate men, in that I see myself giving them pleasure and I love them as friends, so it made me some measure of happy to do so. At this point in life, I comfortably consider myself a lesbian, but my history confuses people. I came out officially and gradually about 3 years ago. Only one brother knows and accepts me at this point. My oldest sister put up a wall and considered it a sick and perverted identity crisis. We have not spoken since, although I have tried.
     
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  2. Jakebusman

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    Hi I'm Jake welcome
     
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    Welcome to EC!
     
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    Hi and Welcome to EC :slight_smile:
     
  5. UMedusa

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    Thanks BB, CW and Jake! It's nice to meet you. :slight_smile:
     
  6. Rade

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    A big welcome.
    I'm a guy in the opposite position leaving the marital home soon. I have some
    understanding, it's so draining and I feel exhausted at the moment. You have come to a greeat place here .Rade X
     
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    I hope things get better for you. As you probably know from my posts, I have not come out to my parents or brother because I already know they will disown me. My oldest son knows and my husband - well you know that whole story. I just wanted to say you have friends here. You can msg me anytime you want to talk.
     
  8. Hugh

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    Welcome! Hopefully, you will find a few here you can depend on. Your story highlights the fears and reticence of many married gay women and men, me included. They say life is an adventure. OK. If they say so!