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This guy keeps flirting with me but I'm a lesbian, what should I do?

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  1. BelieveinLove94

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    There is this guy in one of my classes who sits next to me every class, at first I thought he was just being friendly but a friend of mine told me he likes me and is trying to flirt with me. Now that I think about it, he definitely is flirting with me. I'm a lesbian, I'm not attracted to him. I don't know what to do. What should I do? I never flirt back but he seems persistent on flirting with me.
     
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    tell him ur gay. lol...
     
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    Looking at her location I don't think that would be the best thing to do.
     
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    No it really wouldn't, unfortunately there are a lot of people here who don't like gay people. This one guy came out at college a few years ago and some other guys went up to him after class and killed him
     
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    Wow! That is horrible!! :frowning2:

    You could just let him flirt until he eventually asks you out, and then you can just say you see him more as a friend or that you are not interested in dating anyone at the moment. Or if maybe you could just tell him that you realize he is flirting with you, and that you are flattered but you are currently not interested in dating anyone? Or maybe casually mention a "currently out of state boyfriend" if you think he will take the hint?

    Sorry, that is all I can come up with! :/
     
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    If you could write sometime (when you have time) about the environment in Tennessee, I'd be interested in learning more.

    Anyway, I guess that the mystery boyfriend (who is away in the military or something) is the ideal prop for the fellow's interest.
     
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    Saying you have a long distance boyfriend probably best option.
     
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    Get him on here!
     
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    Just tell him that you are very flattered by his interest but you are not interested in a relationship with a man at this moment. You are being honest and not rude about it
     
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    Just say that you are seeing somebody but this person lives in another state.. That really sucks at what happened to that guy who came out.. Be careful okay?
     
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    Say that you are not into him or he is not your kind of guy. Or say you have a long distance boyfriend (then he won't be able to ask who it is really)
     
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    tell him :
    "hey dude stop it,seriously i don't have to be interested in every guy who flirts with me what if i don't find him attractive\cute in someway,this means im not interested !,so please im kindly asking stop flirting with me,lets just say you are friend zoned no flirting i see you as a friend not anything more,im really sorry though"

    ok i say that to girls who flirt with me,but usually i just say im gay even though i'm from syria since girls are way nicer to respond to that than boys,id usually get a fangirl !
    but hey try something similar be nice and kind not all girls rejecting boys are being lesbo ya know i do reject many boys and so do many girl best friends of mine so its totally ok.
     
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    Man Tennessee sucks. I live here and the people hereven are just....:bang:
     
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    Unlike with some gay guys and women, It is NEVER a good idea to tell a man who flirts with you that you're a lesbian. Men fetishize F/F sex but hate lesbians on the basis that they aren't attracted to men. It usually leads to entitlement, pushiness, and sometimes rape if you say you're a lesbian as a form of rejection.

    Always safer to lie and say you have a boyfriend and what not. True, not all men are dangerous, but this is the worry and reality we have to live with.
     
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    They murdered a kid for being gay?! What happened?! Are you in a smaller town or a city? I was just in Nashville & found it pretty gay-friendly. I've heard Knoxville is too. Then again, I couldn't get over how many churches there are! You guys really like your Jesus!
     
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    I am in Tennessee - and no...not the place to out yourself unless you are in bigger city. However, he will probably try even harder if he knows you are a lesbian. I hate that, but it is true. Just simply tell him that you are not interested. Honesty is best...like a Band-Aid. Rip that sucker off.
     
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    Nice to know there are others from Tennessee on here lol
     
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    I have the exact same problem! (except genders are swapped [I'm a guy & the other persons a girl]) That persons nice and everything, but I'm gay. I Just want to be friends with them. I would just tell them I'm gay, but I'm only out to one person, and I'm not ready to come out to other people.
     
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    Considering your location, I think it would be best to casually mention your "boyfriend" in conversation. He should be able to take that hint and back off. :slight_smile:
     
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    What you should do is just tell him you are not interested and that you are a lesbian. If he doesn't believe you well, that is his problem. Hope you figure it out.