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Thinking more about my sexuality and why it took so long to realize.....

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Benjamin77, May 28, 2020.

  1. Benjamin77

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    Hello, I've been on here before and talked about my experience with sexual attraction to men (I'm a guy in his 20s.)

    I always wondered if I had repressed my thoughts about men until my freshman year in college and saw a roommate naked "accidentally." Haha. Then bam! Instantly thought about having sex with men. Took me a while to act on it....and when I did which was limited sadly. Hey, I was naked at least...I liked it and still want to do more.

    I've also noticed that when I go out or go on dating apps I'm able to get more and more noticeable of men I find attractive. I really liked it. Not sure if it matters but I lean submissive and when it comes to well anal...who better than a guy to do it with. Also am turned on by giving a guy oral more than to a woman. I think I'd be better at it given that well I am a guy, haha.

    That said I'm still sure I'm attracted to women physically and emotionally. I'm still figuring out with men whether or not if I can be romantically attracted to ...which is a bit difficult. I think I'm more attracted to men sexually and I guess emotionally I'm just attracted to women. At least so far. Which I find odd. I don't understand how that's possible, but from what I understand way back in history (ancient Greece) that wasn't out of the norm? I'm just interested in historical stuff so that's why I bring it up.

    I guess because of the environment I grew up in sort of conservative (ex-Catholic here) and the whole worry of being outed repressed myself to just thinking no I'm totally straight. Then when I got to be on my own and think independently I got to actually realize wow is this who I am? I guess I'd say I'm bisexual but sexually favoring men and emotionally favoring women as of now.

    Does anybody have similar experiences or comments?
     
  2. Pedro123

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    I'm exactly the same. Romantic with women, and I can enjoy thinking of both for sex although with men it's better. I know I have feelings for women for the times I was with women I was trully attracted to, when I really wanted to have sex with them and had boners etc. That's never happened with boys for me in real life although it's happened as I was alone once and saw a muscular hairy guy and got a boner. Most of my fantasies used to be with men in the past although I loved to see naked women. I, however, can't imagine myself doing that with men in real life, only with women. I mean to me a woman could be any woman, wouldn't matter much, but gay guys generally have personalities that don't attract me or just make me feel weird, and I really wouldn't want a guy if it wasn't a really strong guy with a really good looking face.
    Maybe I'd be able to when horny call a guy to fuck me although unlikely and enjoy it but to go through the whole process of dating and all the steps till the end would make me feel a bit sick.
     
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    That’s the same way I was I’ve always known I was sexually attracted to other boys growing up girls too but as I’ve gotten older I find males more attractive sexually. It sounds like you’re bisexual, I used to feel the same way but I’ve gotten more comfortable with my same sex attraction at least to myself I’m willing to admit it.
     
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    I was the same growing up, 1 or 2 wow, you might be gay moments, which I pushed to the back of my mind, around 40 it really hit me and started to become more dominant. I still notice women, but don't have the intimacy thoughts like I once did. I know and accept now that I was born to be with a man.
     
  5. Benjamin77

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    Might sound weird but I'm so turned on by watching two men have passionate sex. Locked in arms and kissing, touching intimately. I feel like I fantasize about that the most.
     
  6. ChescaC

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    When I was younger, I initially thought I was Bi, and then it evolved into Pan, but I never experimented with sexual relations with the same sex(highly conservative father, more moderate mother), the closest I ever came to a tryst was receiving a kiss from a young man outside the store(he thought I was cute, and well I’m not going to lie, there were sparks that flew). But as the years went by I never did drop the Pan label, because there was the occasional man whom I did feel a pull to, but I never pursued anything because of that fear.
    Fast forward to March 2018; I’ve come to accept myself and have gotten onto hormones, I come to realize “no, I don’t like men, at least not in that sense.”