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Things you like about being trans*

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Hats, Jul 19, 2016.

  1. Hats

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    While there's a lot of focus on the difficulties of being trans* (and rightly so) is there anything anyone likes about the fact that they're not cis, or something they appreciate which wouldn't have happened/they wouldn't have known otherwise?
     
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    Well, I like being a woman. When some shitstorm starts on Twitter or someplace that's directed at women, I like being with other women to support them. I like having this perspective and this branch of knowledge. Also I like having a greater understanding of myself and I think generally more self-awareness than I'd have to have if I were cis. Not that cis people aren't self-aware, but I don't know how self-aware they are in this particular way. It helps me deal with other things as well.
     
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    Being me is nice.
    But besides that is a decent experience in both the spot of male and female people, allowing you to help them more so with issues and feelings and stuffs.
    Not that it helped my other friend.
     
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    I'm a girl but don't have periods. Also, when I feel like myself, I get this overwhelming feeling of euphoria. I can understand trans people better but that goes for being in just about any community.
     
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    I would love to have periods, lol.

    Well the most beautiful thing about being trans is when you feel connected with your inner-self. I usually feel that when I wear clothes of my true gender (panties, skirts, any other cloth designed for women), let's say that sense of butterflies on your stomach and immediately all your doubts vanish, then you say to yourself 'Yeah this is my path i'm definitely a girl'... It's like being in love of yourself lol.

    I love being a female and it feels so right when my friend calls me Daniela and treats me as a girl (she's the only I came out to). Well I love being feminine at some point but that isn't necessarily attached with being trans.

    So yeah I love the euphoria that comes with being trans.
     
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    ...guess it's given me a confidence i probably wouldn't have otherwise to just be myself. Its also made me think a lot more about gender and trans issues in general, so I feel like I've learned a lot too.
     
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    I don't have experience of being female. Sure I have some experiences of being put into female socialisation but pre-coming out I was also saying that I don't understand women. I just understand some of their circumstances.

    I don't like anything about being trans. I don't dislike it either. I'm not hoding my trans identity. It's just normal.

    You could also ask people "what do you like about being male/female".
     
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    I can relate with this SO MUCH, just on the opposite way. I don't understand men at all and I just don't feel like a men (I would rather feel like an alien that lives on a determinate body that always felt wrong)
     
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    Being trans itself is rarely a pleasant experience, but I think it may be making me a better person. Having this secret that is so painful and knowing people have no idea what I'm going through makes me more sympathetic to other peoples' issues, even if they may be hidden. Plus, I think it makes me more empathetic to women in general. Perhaps I've never felt like a "woman" but I still understand harassment and unfair expectations.
     
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    I think it is known to the community that I hate it, but I must confess that it has one advantage: Transdudes always look young.
     
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    This isn't really something I LIKE per se, and it probably wouldn't even be relevant if I wasn't trans, but if I wasn't so desperate to transition, I don't think I'd ever willingly see a doctor. I could have a multitude of cancers/misc diseases right now/in the near future and would never know it. I'm pretty sure I would rather die than go to a gynecologist's office pretending to be a woman, throw my feet up into some stirrups and get a pap smear, or even a mammogram or whatever else women do. I'm sure it wouldn't be much more pleasant as a transman, but since I plan to eventually get all that shit removed, I will be much less likely to die a humiliating death from a female specific disease that could've been treated if I wasn't willing to endure the humiliation of seeing a female specific doctor. Also, I'm really into drinking and smoking but since I know it is more damaging if you are on T I will have a more convincing reason to quit. I think the benefits to my overall health will be far outweigh the risk of testosterone and surgery.

    Back to what I actually LIKE and not just what will probably benefit me in the future, I think in general transguys are more attractive than cis guys. A trans guy with fortunate genes usually makes a pretty man.
     
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    @ Rick: Totally! Transdudes are hotter ^^
     
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    the only possible benefit I see is having direct experience of living as your assigned gender, which cis people don't have. I know what it's like to be a guy, basically, even if I'm not one in my brain - so I think this allows me to understand both women and men better; however, being trans is not needed to have a good understanding.

    So, I guess there isn't anything I like about being trans. I just see the bright side of things; it's not the same though as being glad.
     
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    I guess I like the fluidity of thinking that not being able to establish a stable identity has brought with it. Furthermore, always being in a state of numbness and disconnect has heavily influenced my overall ability to go outside of myself and see myself connected to others in a much deeper level than I would feel otherwise which can be nice sometimes. I also like feeling a part of the LGBT community. :slight_smile:

    I have to admit that like others here I don' t feel this has given me any special insight on how it feels to be a guy. It isn't like my body feels like my own or I know how to respond to others as a man.
     
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    I guess it's broadened my perspective a little bit. I've gotten some insight I wouldn't have had if I had been AFAB. And well, it's helped me understand the trans community and the LGBT+ community at large, such that I'm in a good position to help out others like me, that maybe I wouldn't otherwise.
     
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    You get to feel how a guy is treated by other people, though, and quite possibly what reactions you get for not exactly fitting in with others. In my opinion this is the kind of insight you accidentally get. It's not like we get to know what it is to be a man, but we do get to know what it means to function as one.
     
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    Oh, the lovely people that I got to know via trans support and activism stuff. (&&&) Not that trans people are a nicer bunch than cis people in general... except that maybe they are. I don't know. I just really like a lot of them.

    Maybe some things are different for me, because even though I want to be read as male, I'm actually quite glad I wasn't socialized male. I just also wish I hadn't been treated as a girl... that's just nonbinaryness I guess.
     
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    very good points. I came out fully a year ago, and socially transitioned. I can still remember the feeling as I was able to be myself all day every day of "wow, is this how people feel regularly, just plain happy?" but I think that may reflect more on my history with depression