Things went too far

To me it sounds like your Bisexual, whether you end up in a relationship with Brandon or not.

 

A beautiful aspect of forum threads is they can draw out train of thought and views. Thoughts and views lends to clarity.

It's more clear to me now that Jacob D (yes I have the names correct now) and I are on a different page when talking about his interaction with Brandon. Lets call this, I'm talking apples and he's talking oranges - ya I know I like to think of "things" in terms of food.

I see a relationship when it first starts out, as a sampler. Just like when you visit an all you can eat buffet style restaurant. All those delectable foods in front of you, ah which one suits me? Which buffet dish will I go back for? This analysis is akin to dating person x for the first time and akin to my theory about checking out many different people - basically open relationship phase.

But Jacob D appears to be beyond this fist phase. He knows he loves Brandon. This is akin to going back to the buffet line a second time and getting just the food he wants. No sampling this time around.

I'm not qualified to comment on a possible third phase, picking the right person to permanently bond with. Is this phase possible. Yes. Is this third phase fool proof? No. (divorce rates are sky high)

Disclaimer: These are my thoughts based on reading books and observing. I have no working experience in any of these matters - thanks to social drivers that closeted me.

Later