So today I had my second therapy session and I’m not really sure how to feel about it. To start I’m 29, married to a man, w/ 2 young children. I’ve had an attraction towards women for as long as I can remember but I’ve always pushed those feelings deep down out of fear and shame, and strictly dated men. If I’m honest I’ve never really been “in love” with any man I’ve had a relationship with, even my husband. I do love and care for him, but I’ve always felt like something is missing. In recent months I’ve come to somewhat accept that I am only attracted to women both physically and emotionally but being that I’m married with children I’ve found myself kind of lost so I sought therapy in hopes of finding some way through this. When talking with my therapist she kind of insinuated that since I’ve never actually been with a woman, how can I be sure that I am a lesbian. She further went on to suggest that I go out and find other lesbians to talk with and “befriend” and see where things go. And by doing this then I’ll know if I’m really only attracted to women and I can make a decision on how to proceed with my marriage etc..... To me it just feels way off to suggest that I go off and cheat on my husband with a woman to find out if I’m a lesbian. Am I overreacting to her suggestions? Did anyone who was questioning their sexuality find that by being with someone who identifies that way somehow helped confirm your own sexuality? Any advice is appreciated!