"The spectrum"... the many faces of poly,bi, & pan sexuality

Username: east coast kid
Orientation: Homo.... I could never be in a relationship with a man but I've had sex with some
Leaning: Women!
When I first knew: When I was 5 I used to play games with my friends where I was a boy and bought flowers for all the girls
Acceptance: Knew for sure I liked girls a lot when I was 12... and I freaked out. Came out to myself as bi at 15, possibly gay at 16 or 17. Positive I was gay at 18 but I had no idea what to do
How LGBT I've gone: Sex with women and a gf :eusa_danc
Porn leaning: Lesbian or straight but I skip certain scenes with straight sex
Fantasy leaning: Girls, and sometimes I'm a guy in the scene
Wet dream leaning: GIRLS!
What I look for in a guy: Hmm.. I don't look for guys at all
What I look for in a girl: Sense of humor, strength, not a girly girl
What remains the same: Um.. not sure how to answer this xD

 

Username: Daisy1

Orientation: Questioning. Trying to figure out where I fit between bi and gay.

Leaning: Women, definitely, but I am attracted to certain things about men.

When I first knew: At a concert in 1999 I was completely entranced by these female dancers. I thought to myself "shoot! I hope I'm not a lesbian." I've had many similar since then.

Acceptance: Still figuring things out, and I'm in a long-term relationship with a man, which makes things more difficult. I think I could accept being gay, but I dislike the ambiguity of being bisexual. It just seems so complicated.

How LGBT I've gone: A couple of years ago, I had a long-term flirtation with another girl, but nothing came of it. More recently, I had an extended make-out session with a girl at a club. I was very drunk but enjoyed it nonetheless. I'm out to my best friend and several others know I'm questioning.

Porn leaning: I'm picky. Plot is important, and I generally like guy/guy foreplay and fairly tame guy/girl. Lesbian porn always seems so contrived, but I find scenes with strap-ons hot. (Question: is that a bisexual thing?)

Fantasy leaning: 90%+ women

Dream leaning: 90%+ women

What I look for in a guy: Smart, caring, and motivated. No vanity or cockiness. I've never been that into looks, but I suppose I prefer guys with dark hair who know how to dress themselves. Oh, and good manners.

What I look for in a girl: In contrast, looks are much more important to me for women, and I like a bit of cockiness (it's sexy!) Athleticism is attractive, as is a bit of quirkiness/awkwardness (especially if she owns it). For some reason, I think it's adorable when pretty women dress badly (perhaps because it makes them less intimidating). Oh, and glasses. I love glasses. Physically, I like tall women with long hair.

What remains the same: Brains, shared interests, a warm smile.

 

Username: Seeksanctuary.

Orientation: Gay transguy. :] I'd like to add that I'm poly, but I don't know if that counts as an orientation.

Leaning: ... Uhm, men, heh. I'm guy-only.

When I first knew: I always knew, but I was raised in a religious and mostly sheltered environment. I just never had words for what I felt; all I had were stereotypes, so I thought my "feeling like a guy" thing was actually just being a lesbian. I know, it's stupid and horrible, but I knew NO different until about 7th grade. And around that time, I actually went from seriously thinking that to KNOWING it wasn't true but being in denial and WANTING it to be true. Because being a lesbian is simpler than being a gay FTM, or it was in my mind anyhow. I've always been poly, too. *shrugs* I just always liked having two partners. :| I didn't care to date around, I just always wanted two people to love, and that's about it.

Acceptance: When I was 16, I finally realized I was FTM and worked towards accepting it. I still denied being gay, and still had trouble. I dated a few girls but felt nothing for them, so it never lasted. :[ But when I was about 19, eveything finally clicked. I came out, I got with my boyfriend and here I am. It took a lot of research and soulsearching to finally accept who and what I am. Lots of therapy. I never really questioned being poly, nor was I ever in denial over it, so I always accepted that part of myself. I did try to "go monogamous" for a few people, but it never worked out all that well because they always acted suspicious of me for absolutely no reason; no trust, no relationship.

How LGBT I've gone: I've been on testosterone since December of 08. I think. I've got surgery planned in the future, and I'm open to pretty much everyone I know. I've had a couple experiences with women, but I didn't like it and so I stick to guys.

Porn leaning: I don't feel very comfy explaining that to strangers, sorry. =P

Fantasy leaning: Males. I just don't like women that way. Every fantasy I have ever had has been about men.

Dream leaning: Males, again. I don't usually dream about making out with people or anything, but when I do, the person is always male.

What I look for in a guy: Patient, loving, not too clingy... but not distant, either. Someone who lets me have my space but is open to cuddles. I like guys who are spiritual; I'm not religious nor am I Atheist, and I honestly find it a bit hard to be involved with Atheists, so I prefer guys who are a bit into spirituality at the least. I want a guy I can be friends with, and let it evolve from there. Also, I like furries. =P Added points if the guy is vegetarian and leans towards the liberal side of politics. Definitely need a guy who is accepting of trans* people, "big" people (I'm a bit chunky) and poly people. Sense of humor and intelligence required, of course. ... God I sound picky.

What I look for in a girl: Friendship? That's as much as I look for in a girl. Which is pretty much similar to what I look for in a guy, just without sex being involved.

What remains the same: I like weird people. xD

 

great thread....

 

This is a great thread!

 

Orientation: Almost completely 100% gay. Partly pansexual.

Leaning: Guys

When I first knew: I remember coming out to my brother when I was around 8-11 years old.

Acceptance: Never really truly accepted it until I came out to my mum about a year ago.

How LGBT I've gone: When I was 16 I did stuff with this other guy. Including masturbating our penises together, fingering, blowjob, masturbating in face etc. It wasnt that good. I would say that I regret it, but I know that if I didnt have that experience I would be a lot dumber and a lot more needy today.

Porn leaning: Guys

Fantasy leaning: Guys

Dream leaning: Guys

What I look for in a guy: I have almost no idea.

What I look for in a girl: I mostly dont!

What remains the same: Dunno. I guess, I like people who are confidently smarter than me in some key areas.

 

Username: concrete Building (this place wouldn't have the full name) However, I might change it.

Orientation: Bi. I'm more sexually attracted to guys than girls, and more romantically attracted to girls. However, it's not like I don't have sexual feelings for girls or romantic attractions for guys. Just kind of a weird balance. Also, every time I question my orientation, seconds later, it's back to the way it was (and is)
Leaning: Eh.. Could go with either, honestly. But I wanna experiment a bit -heheh-
When I first knew: About mid-January, I recall.
Acceptance: Honestly, I should have seen it coming. Gender-wise, and also the fact that I never believed in "cooties" in elementary school, I should have. But, nonetheless, I'd found myself accepting that I was sexually gay after learning a couple close friends found themselves out. It still would have happened, since I was opening my mind more, and didn't want to be the hypocrite I'd been for the past 2 years.
How LGBT I've gone: GSA, I talk to a few people online about stuff (who are LGBT people) and also talking to a social worker at school.
Porn leaning: Seems a bit.. personal, but I tend to look at guys more.
Fantasy leaning: Guys...
Wet dream leaning: See, that's the thing: I've been jacking off before I knew what it was.. so I've never had a wet dream.
What I look for in a guy: Kind of like a big brother. Probably because I -am- the big brother in the family.
What I look for in a girl: Geeky? You're in.
What remains the same: Basically, if you can be a friend, or a -really good- friend, it'll probably work out.

 

Username: WydenEmmie

Orientation: Lesbian/Kinsey 5

Leaning: Girls

When I first knew: 12-ish was when I kind of figured I wasn't straight.

Acceptance: 13 ^.^

How LGBT I've gone: Nothing yet.

What I look for in a guy: Nothing, considering I'm not really attracted to them, but if I was, they'd just have to be nice.

What I look for in a girl: I'm not really picky, but I like seeing girls with piercings. Not over done though. If they're nice to me, and have an adventurous/daring/not-going-to-take-this-stupid-drama/do-what-I-want (as long as it's not illegal) attitude, that's awesome. But, I'd fall for anyone who is caring and fun to be around.

What remains the same: There really isn't anything to stay the same, since I've only answered half of it.