I previously posted about thinking I married the wrong man. https://forum.emptyclosets.com/index.php?threads/did-i-marry-the-wrong-man.486663/ I won’t re post the same story so if you’re interested, there is the link. After reading more online and searching things like “not feeling like self with spouse” I realized I have what is called “the hole in the soul”. The hole in the soul stems from low self esteem and it will make you codependent. You need someone else to “complete” yourself. You find something or someone to plug that hole. I definitely think this is the case with me. I was codependent on my husband and after he left for boot camp and deployments I was back on my own. Have I grown out of this hole? I don’t know. I know my self love and self esteem are a little low. Did I choose the wrong person because I am co dependent? If I fix my self love issues can I fall back in love with my husband? Deep down I don’t love him anymore and I don’t want to fix it. I already feel “done”. I got married at 23 and it was before I knew what I liked in a man and that makes me wonder if I can even fix this if I wanted to. But we get along well and don’t fight. I’m just not happy where I am now. Any thoughts?