I was debating whether to put this in Later in Life or here, so here it is. It might have to do more with men 30 or 35, or older but, hey, I'm sure there are 25 year olds like this, too. I once went to the auto show at the convention center with a friend. My friend and I look like clean-cut types, but we didn't have a problem laughing it up or conversing with people. At this event was a guy who was probably around 35, about 5'9, slender/fit, wearing nice jeans and cool attire, fashionable eye wear, and some kind of a yuppie. However, what was most noticeable about him was his stiffness and smugness - no eye contact with anyone when he got in and out of cars, didn't interact with reps on hand, and kept a stone face. He tripped our radar, and I think he was not in any kind of denial, but just aloof and unapproachable, not that either of us wanted to. I tagged him as "Coffee Alone." You know the type - the IT guy or guy with a decent paying job sitting in a coffee shop, absorbed in his laptop, and to whom anyone and everyone around him is just a waste of space. My friend saw him around the city months later. Him: "I saw 'Coffee Alone'." Me: "Really? Who was he with?" Him: "He was by himself." Have you seen these "gay statues?" Do they ever smile, laugh, or talk? Do they have any friends with whom they cut loose? Do they have sex with anyone? Are they happy being like this? What's your read?