I found this site about a month or so ago, desperate to find a place where being gay and married is discussed. I didn't actually join until just now, after reading this thread. My story, while not the same in all events, certain have identical thoughts, feelings, stages, and effects. Thank you, HWG for sharing your story. And... hugs. I look forward to reading the stories involving some of those who have replied here. It seems like I'm in quite familiar company. Hi.