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The aftermath of prom and other concerns

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by love dont judge, Apr 17, 2018.

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  1. love dont judge

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    Well, so I kind of outgrew my need for the site and left for awhile, but now I'm back because I'm pretty terrified. It's my junior prom this year and I was insistent on being my true self, for better or worse. I've got a dress, shoes, my stepmom is doing my hair, and it's going to be great. I'm going to be announced as the daughter of my parents while the class walks in and I'm being escorted by a boy and it'll be great. Except my entire town and school is going to be there. And those that aren't will know by Monday. And I don't know how to deal with that. People are going to talk and im probably going to get verbally harrased and I'm terrified. Oh, and my mother doesn't approve but I don't care. Either she can stay in denial or accept it, or she'll move into anger. (The last thought is also quite terrifying). But i digress. My two biggest concerns right now are makeup and the fallout. I have to do my own makeup because of time constraints, and I can do basic makeup, but I'm having to completely experiment on contouring and highlighting and I'm completely lost. I have no idea. Does anyone have any tips for learning? And I really just don't know how to get over my fear for both the night of and the Monday after when I have to return for school. I'm sure it's probably worse in my head, but... I just don't know how to get over this fear, even though I've passed the point of no return and I have to do this now. Does anyone have any advice? I guess this just turned into a long ramble, but thank you for reading all of it.
     
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    As for contouring, in my opinion it's very difficult. I think you can still try using: foundation etc, eye makeup and lipstick/lip gloss. With eye makeup, you can use eyeshadows and eyeliner, in my opinion they are quick to learn (well, aside from the eyeliner maybe) and easy to use. There are plenty of tutorials on the web how to apply eye shadow. You will need two or three tones of shadow and it's best to stick to a natural palette, because the more flashy colours like blue, violet or green (or smoky eye) stand out quite much and wouldn't be appropriate in many settings.

    Have a great party!
     
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    Contouring is one of the hardest things to do in a make up. I'd keep with foundation (better too light than too dark; same warmth of your skin tone [pinkish or yellowish: look if the veins on your wrist are blue/purple or green]) and lips+eyes (only one of the two must have a special focus, not both or you'll look like an emo doll. If you wanna make lips look rounder, avoid mat (lipstick) and dark: use liquid light lipgloss.

    I hope you're safe enough not to be harassed physically :/ surround yourself with friends and don't end up alone and/or in dark places. Find a non-hostile group and follow it like sheep. This way is harder to be bullied.
     
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    I also find contouring to be pretty challenging. Honestly, I think all makeup is difficult but I still love it! So, I personally am probably not the best person to give you tips, but you could look on YouTube for mtf makeup tutorials. And have a great time at your prom! That's exciting but I get why you're nervous. I was never a huge fan of school dances, but that's probably because I had to go as a boy and bring a girl!

    Here's a link to a makeup routine that I found to be really helpful. It's by Stef Sanjati, and she has an awesome channel that you should totally check out for not just beauty tips but also good insight into being trans.



    Let us know how it goes!
     
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    Update: so last night was prom. Thank you to everyone who warned me about the difficulty of contour. I decided I'd be okay without it and got by with everything else thanks for recommending stef to me.i live watching her and forgot about her beginner friendly videos. Prom pretty much went effortlessly. Nobody said anything to me negatively, in fact, i was complimented on my hair, dress, etc by multiple people throughout the night. My mother is still ignoring it completely, even though I know she saw me. She left in the middle of our grand March after watching me. Or maybe before. I have no idea. It pissed me off but I wasn't going to let it ruin my night. And it didnt. I had a great time, and waa finally able to be myself for the first time in basically ever.
     
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    I am late to the party and I think the advice was useful anyway... So I just wanted to post to say YAY! congrats on things going well and people being nice. That is amazing and wonderful and I hope you had a blast and felt great about everything after ♥♥♥
     
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