Hi there, Thanks for having me, I have just signed up and I really look forward to being a part of this friendly community. I am amab, in my 30’s and only just a few weeks ago started showing an interest in feminine clothing and started dressing up in my wife’s clothes. I was shocked at how good it makes me feel. After that experience I knew I had to tell my wife about it…that was almost 2 weeks ago. Her response was amazing, she is very supportive. I’m not sure what is going on with me and where this is all coming from. I have a feeling I might be trans. I have joined this forum to find answers and connect with others with similar experiences. I have now dressed as a woman at home for 3 days straight also enjoying experimenting with some makeup. It almost feels like there’s no going back and that freaks me out a bit…
Welcome to EC! It sounds like you are going through an exciting time of self-expression / exploration and it is great to hear that your wife is supportive!
Hi Stephi and welcome. I know a bit about how you feel. I don't fully dress but I have been doing certain types of crossdressing since I was 10. I too sometimes thought I wanted to be female, but for me personally it was more about being able to express femininity, something that was drilled into me as being shameful. I think only you can know if you are trans or not. It is wonderful that your wife is so supportive. I hope you find everything you need here.
I just wanted to add onto this, because I think @tidalpool127 makes a brilliant point. Cross-dressing/wearing different clothing that is typically targeted towards and associated with women does not have to mean a misalignment with gender-though it certainly could. Lord knows I continue to confuse those in my life since transitioning, as a trans man, and now expressing myself in a much more feminine manner than when I was perceived to be a woman! Each of us possess femininity and masculinity and how we might choose to explore these pieces of ourselves will be different for everyone! Take your time with things Stephi, and enjoy the process!
Stephi.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! There is a sub-forum here titled “Gender Identity and Expression” if you post there I think you’ll find people who will understand what you are dealing with. This is a community of loving, caring and very supportive people and we will do our best to help you blend into the community. You can ask questions in any of the Sub-forums by creating a new thread or by joining in a conversation-thread that is already going. You can also post a message on anyone's Profile Page after you have made at least ten posts yourself. If you have a question that is somewhat private you can always send a Private Message to any Staff Member. Normally Private Messages can only be exchanged between two Full Members, but a PM to a Staff Member is an exception. We are so glad that you have found us here on Empty Closets! .....David
Thank you @tidalpool127, that’s very nice of you. It is good to hear that you also enjoy crossdressing. Maybe that is all that it is for me too… Expressing femininity as a male is definitely often shamed upon. I shoved my feminine side deep in the closet years ago because of this. It’s good to find her again! How often do you find yourself crossdressing? Do you do it in the comfort of your home or do you also go outside as a cross dresser?
Thank you @BonaDrag, good point. It’s good to keep that in mind, it’s too soon for me to know I guess. Maybe because I have hidden my feminine side for so long it just feels liberating to explore this side of me. But having said that, it feels like my heart is telling me the truth and that is that I feel more woman than man. I definitely need to take my time with things. I really do want to enjoy the process but I also would like some answers. Good for you for transitioning. Even though it’s confusing for others is it less confusing for yourself? How long have you known that you wanted to be a man?
Of course, sometimes our hearts know what's best, even if it takes a little bit of time for the rest of us to catch up. And I hear you, I didn't mean to imply you needed to wait to find answers- answers are always helpful, especially if they come sooner rather than later. Not only can I imagine, I know from my own experience what you mean when you speak about how liberating expression can feel when you've had to hide it for so long! As far as my transition goes, that is exactly how I'd describe it ahah, more confusing for others, yet waaay less confusing for me. I always knew something was off, but due to my upbringing and the way in which I believed that what everyone said / thought of me was an absolute truth, I didn't come out to myself until I was 20 years old.
Hi Stephi, I'm kinda weird. So I do wear womens' watches 'cuz I think they fit my wrist better and I've been wearing a clear coat on my toe nails for a while and have started getting it on my fingernails. I want to do color but I'm not there yet. Um, in terms of womens' clothing I don't really wear any that's visible. I prefer to underdress, I just like to wear certain types of lingerie, I don't know why. I've always not liked traditional male underwear and probably wouldn't have any underwear like that under different circumstances. Um, my husband isn't really thrilled about it, so I don't actually wear that type of stuff very often.
