Talking to family about accessory/jewelry preferences

Thank you!

No, I don't think I'm ready to come out to my sister. For one thing, telling her nobody else knows would be a lie, as a few of my friends already know. Second, despite being pro-LGBT, she and my mother have said some things in the past that imply they are confused about bisexuality, and don't fully understand it. They fully accept lesbianism, gay, and transgenderism, but not bisexuality.

Plus, I'd find it weird to have my sister keep this big huge secret which turns out to be that I'm wearing a chain around my ankle.

But thanks again for liking my taste in ankle jewelry!

 

I'm planning in the next few days to just have it exposed on my leg and see if they notice. Do you think it'd be better to tell them, or just have it out in the open and see if they spot it?

I've also always found them hot on guys, partly because it's something you don't see often. But more guys should do it, especially if they have nice looking legs (I don't have hot legs, but still like the look)

 

Wanted to give everyone an update: after a little more than a month of me wearing it, my mom finally noticed it earlier tonight while she, my sister and I were watching television. I was very nonchalant about it when she asked, mentioning that I wanted to try it out, and referencing the guy on Big Brother who wore one.

However I did also ask her "Do you think it looks girly? I didn't tell you guys about it because I didn't know how you'd react." Her response? "That's up to you." I then said "But what do YOU think about it?" She said "Well, guys wear earrings, so why not?". I was so relieved that she had a seemingly positive response to it.

My sister said nothing. She just took a picture of my ankle, sent the photo to myself and my mother on Snapchat with the caption: "What are we, in 1998?" which resulted in my mother snorting in laughter. So I guess my sister is cool with it? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Nothing else was said or done about it so I assume all is good with them. However, during the conversation, my mother mentioned that my dad probably wouldn't be too happy about it, and I agreed. He's the type of guy who believes boys shouldn't play with dolls; that type of stuff. So I still have to keep it hidden around him, and most likely the extended family for the time being.

I'm just so happy that it's out there now and that my mom and sister aren't bothered by it. Internally, I was terrified the entire conversation, worried about what they thought. But I think my external casual approach about it made the whole thing easier.

 

Well, most of the doll-like action figures we owned (such as hand-me-down GI Joes) became part of my sister's Barbie collection as male companions, since she only had one Ken and numerous different Barbies. Oddly, the one I kept for myself resembled more of a Ken than an action figure. It was a doll of a popular 90's/early 2000's singer whose music I was really into at the time, complete with a tour bus. I don't really remember my dad's reaction to it, but eventually it also became part of my sister's doll collection as I got older. Granted, I did play Barbies with my sister mainly because we were the only two kids in the house so it's not like she had any other siblings to play with, plus I sometimes got bored with my own toys. My dad never said anything outright to me, but I remember my mom mentioning on a few occasions that he wasn't happy that I was playing with Barbies. He never seemed to look at it as just a kid playing with toys with his sister.

Most of my action figures were smaller toys, like 6 inches and shorter. They were usually superheros or Star Wars characters, or various different movie character toys. I also had an entire collection of Simpsons action figures that I played with as well.