Hey everyone! I need some help/support. I am not at all out but have recently taken some steps to come out, or maybe not come out, but meet people in the lgbtq community. I volunteered at a photo shoot for lgbtq rights (I don't think I can say the name on here) in a nearby city and while I was nervous to go alone, it was really cool. We took a group pic of all the volunteers in front of a big rainbow flag, which is posted on a public social media page. I loved it and so wanted to post it on mine or tag myself, but feel like that is kind of like coming out publicly... although there were straight allies that participated. I guess I'm still torn between the excitement of realizing and being my true self and the fear of it. I also have been on a couple of dating apps. That's been fun too and there is one woman that I have been chatting with everyday for the past week. We've been getting along really well. I feel like we are past the superficial chatting. We both make it a point to say that we want to chat more later or the next day when we leave off, which seems to indicate interest. I don't know. I'm so new at this. I feel like we are at the point where we should meet, but I am so nervous and not sure how to make it happen. I mean, I've done some online dating with men. It never went well, but in hindsight, I guess I really wasn't interested. The thing is, I always had someone to talk to about it and I'd let a friend know where I was going and with who, for safety. The fact that I'm not out to any friends is making me feel alone and unsure. I don't need friends to tell me what I should do exactly, but I am missing having someone to bounce stuff off of and just talk to about this stuff. I mean, I'm 45 years old and feel like I'm 14 and trying to figure out my first date, but alone. While we haven't spoken about it, I'm guessing she (woman I'm talking to) isn't in the same boat. Do I tell her before we meet that I'm not out? Is that something someone would want to know up front? I don't think I'm worried about actually being out with her, more just the meeting her part and going out with a woman for the first time. I feel like I'm making a bigger deal of this than I should. Nothing may even come of it, but it is one of many hurdles I need to get over. Any tips or advice would be super helpful! Thanks!!