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Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Eboni, Sep 14, 2020.

  1. Eboni

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    So lately I’ve been stressing about my long distance relationship and my future with him. In a nutshell I've been dating a guy named Brandon for 4 years.

    He lives in Kentucky and I live in California. We have face timed and talked on the phone, so I know what he looks like and was able to confirm his age so that’s great. I really like him, I’ve tried leaving due to mental health issues but came back because he's just so amazing and supportive.

    Anyways, lately I’ve been thinking about how he may not want to be with me or he’s using me. I mean I’ve looked him up and nothing showed which I feel bad for...but I have a big lack of faith sometimes. I’ve also thought about dating someone who lives near me but that's like cheating. But due to being neglected as a child I need lots of attention. I beat myself up about it but I’m working on my self-esteem.

    Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you and stay safe.
     
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    Hi @Eboni

    I’m sorry that you’re feeling stressed about your relationship.

    How old were you when you first started dating? Is he the same age as you?

    People change a lot in their teens and even their early twenties, so relationships formed at that age rarely work out in the long term. Given the distance and your concerns, how would you feel about just being friends with him for the time being?

    Have you had any therapy for the neglect you suffered as a child? If not, is it something that you could research and consider?

    Take care. :slight_smile:
     
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    we started being friends when i was 11 he was twelve we started dating the next year I was 12 he was 13 then we took a break for a few months we have dating ever since
     
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    being friends im totally fine with he is very supportive and I am in therapy but not for neglect
     
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    Do you think that being friends would be the best thing to do for now?
     
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    yes
     
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    I hope he’s understanding and that it reduces the stress in your relationship with him.