hey, i just found out about this place!! to put it simply, ive been having gender troubles for quite a while, but i had repressed it for near 2 years and while im finally coming to terms with it again, im still a little confused...basically, im unsure if im a demiboy or just a trans guy, one thing i KNOW is that im definitely not cis, i see myself as a man, i want a male body shfsidfdsf, but i keep worrying if im valid or not since i rather present myself as a kinda feminine guy. Both male and demiboy sorta feel like the suit me, I just wish i wasnt confused lmao. Are having doubts normal? and am i even valid for seeing myself as a guy but not wanting too be super masculine? i prefer calling myself a "boy" rather than a man, though i think thats still cause i sorta see myself as a child, i deadass feel like theres something really wrong with me, it doesnt help i have to keep kinda quiet about it as my mother is transphobic
Doubts are very common, and it doesn’t help to live in an unsupportive home or community. There’s also a book you may want to take a look at regarding doubts called, “You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery” by Dara Hoffman-Fox. Touching on masculinity, not all guys are super masculine, or even masculine all the time. There’s nothing wrong with breaking gender roles and norms, either. You’re no less of a man just because your feminine. I think women and afab people are given a lot more freedom to express themselves as masculine rather than men as feminine.
aaa thank you so much, i really needed to hear this, ill definitely look into that book, its just very stressful being confused though i wouldnt be so stressed if my mother was supportive, i suppose i had convinced myself i had to be super masculine to be valid, but youre right, that and while i am dysphoric, im not as dysphoric as some of my other trans friends and i felt like that invalidated me, but thank you a lot again!!!
