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straight but like gay porn

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by user1, Feb 15, 2014.

  1. user1

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    Hey, need some insight. I'm 19 and consider myself straight. I have always loved girls, have had girlfriends, and had sex with 12 of them. I don't find guys attractive, and have never experimented with any. I can tell if a guy is good looking, but as far as if I were to ever get with one he would have to be damn near perfect. The thing is, gay porn really turns me on. I don't really know why but it just does. I do like straight porn too, but gay stuff gets me going more. Despite this, I once accidentally walked into a gay club and I wasn't turned on by anything I saw. Truth is I was extremely put off. I don't really know how to feel about all this, so any advice will help. Thanks.

    Sidenote: I have done ass play before and I liked it.
     
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    Hmm. So many possibilities hehe. Seeing a sexual act can get pretty much anyone going. Research actually shows that straight men can watch gay porn and get sexually aroused. That's one option. Another could be that you could be interested. It depends on what you're truly feeling inside your heart. No one knows you better than yourself hehe. As for walking into a gay club, I wouldn't let that get to you. I am not really a club kind of person, so if i were to go to a lesbian club, I might just not find it attractive since it's not my scene. My best friend is straight and she gets turned on by lesbian porn. It's all relative lol. Also, it depends on what kind of porn you like. Since she likes the romantic and soft kind of porn, she watches that too. Sorry, I hope I'm not confusing you. I really hope this helps. Ultimately, what I am trying to get at is that you should know deep down what you like and don't like. And it's absolutely ok to like more than one thing :slight_smile:
     
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    So, a couple things to note here.

    1) Porn is not an indicator of your sexual orientation. The draw with porn is basically novelty. We see something erotic that's new, and we really like it (generally speaking, of course). We simply like seeing people in erotic states. That's why a whole bunch of lesbians right here on Empty Closets LOVE gay porn. But we don't accuse them of being bisexual. They are full on gay. Likewise, it's possible that you're more like... beginning porn addiction than actually interested in guys.

    2) Enjoying anal play doesn't make you gay. Sexual orientation is about the genders of people you're attracted to with respect to your own gender. It's not a set of sex acts. These days, a whole lot of guys are having anal sex. They are doing their girlfriends in the butt. Sometimes, their girlfriends are doing them in the butt! It's still not gay...

    What is pretty gay, though, is kissing a guy and liking it. So that's my question to you. Would you want to kiss another man?

    3) There's a lot more to male homosexuality than dudes doing each other in the butt. Some guys actually don't like it at all.
     
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    Well said Pret Allez. You worded it so much better than me lol. My brain is just not functioning right now lol
     
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    I'm a lesbian and I almost exclusively watch straight porn. I'm not turned on by the guys or anything, just the general thing of it. You might be curious, but you most likely just have that similar thing where the visuals turn you on.
     
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    Hey, we all express ourselves in different ways. I thought you had many valid things to say...

    Also, I don't blame your straight friend liking lesbian porn. Straight porn can get pretty violent and rapey... I have found (you know, in my extensive viewing of porn) that gay and lesbian porn tend to be more egalitarian and fun.
     
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    Yeah, porn likes/dislikes usually aren't indicators of sexuality. If you're still unsure, just look at me.
     
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    Hahaha yes. That's precisely why we watch gay and lesbian porn more than straight porn. It's hard to find good straight porn that fits our needs. Of course, everyone has their own preferences. There are just so any variables lol
     
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    Big difference between fantasy & reality. Porn is fantasy, clubs are in your face reality. I'm bi, married to a straight-as-an-arrow-kill-any-guy-who-looks-at-me-twice man, gay porn totally does it for me, lesbian porn not so much (because it's mostly screamingly fake), but put me in a live situation? Oh, HELL yes. I love to dance, it's primal and powerful and alive. In my experience, women tend to be about eyes and energy on the dance floor, but men tend to get handsy grope-ish & controlling, and that annoys the hell out of me, so unless I'm out with my husband, I'll dance with the chicks, thanks. Hubs is the only guy who does anything for me in person.

    Sidenote: Mister straight-as-a-ruler? Likes him a little ass play too. Doesn't mean anything other than he enjoys the sensation.
     
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    I agree. Seeing as you slept with 12 girls and 0 guys you are straight.
     
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    Yeah if you're real life is that you're attracted to women and not men I don't think it matters what kind of porn you like. One thing is that I'm told the guys in gay porn are way better looking than in straight porn, because so many straight men would be freaked out at enjoying watching an attractive guy have sex. That may be just an urban myth or something that used to be true but isn't now, but still, it might be that the guys in gay porn are just more fun to look at.

    I'm a woman and I like female/female porn (I hesitate to call it lesbian porn since even I can tell it's totally fake) and watch it exclusively, and people have told me that doesn't mean I'm not straight.

    On the other hand in my case I do have fantasies about doing what I see in the videos... but I don't know that that means I'm not straight either per se.
     
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    when i was younger I found pleasure in exploring the net for porn (straight porn at first) then later I came accross gay porn which I strangely seemed to like. It was freaking me out because, this wasn't what was expected of me, I thought (talk about "its" got a mind of its own). I was too young to have been watching porn (in my opinion) because I was super horny and way confused about my sexuality.
    Letting porn (both gay and straight porn) guide my teenage crazed hormones and my sexuality was the wrong thing to do... yes, porn will have a great influence on how and what your sexual orientation will be if you're uncertain/questioning your sexuality.
    Personally, altogether (and so far) I just don't have an interest in porn anymore. There are just more important things to deal with. Plus I'm nolonger the sex crazed teenage boy I used to be.
    Please don't let porn corupt your mind as to which decision you will make concerning your sexuality. Looking back i wish I had someone who could have guided me through that extremely confusing time of my life.
    What others have said is true, you haven't had any sort of attraction to a particular member of the same sex, therefore your sexual orientation isn't coresponding to that of a gay nature. Trust me dude, if you ever meet that one guy that makes you quake in knees, then you will have cause to question your sexuality.
    It took a very long time and a lot of maturity for me to realise that there is nothing wrong with identifying the good looks of another guy. (Which is obviously something that's not registared in most of the immature minds of the males of this world.)
    1) porn isn't right for the determination or your sexual orientation.
    2) Attraction is the key (are you attracted to any guy, sexualy or romantically?) then you've got something to contemplate
    3) So you like gay porn (like I said "IT'S" got a mind of its own.) Ive even heard some straight guys say that kissing a guy or watching gay porn turns them on, so they simply stay away from such (sadly a victim hehe)...
    Good luck mate, hope I helped.
     
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    Wow everyone has given great advice.

    I'm completely gay, I've tried girls but I'm just not into them. But I find lesbian porn to be hot, especially the authentic kind. It's just... super hot. But I'm definitely not straight or bi because I enjoy it.

    And btw the male g-spot aka the prostate gland is located in a man's anus. Gay straight bi and everything in between, any man can love anal play because it feels great.