Hello. I haven't been posting anything for a while. I'm still trying to figure things out. To sum up a bit my previous posts, I'm a 25 year old cisfemale, who has grown into a dysfunctional family. I've done a lot of inner work by accepting my father for what he was, a sadistic psychopath and my mother who was in denial about her marriage but eventually found the courage to face the truth and get a divorce. I feel like I've made quite some progress in my socialization, I feel safe around most men even when I don't know them and I even have some male friends who are quite decent and interesting human beings. The truth is, I still can't tell if I'm bisexual or lesbian. I've ruled out the possibility of being straight since my fantasies about females are consistent and appear with frequency even in dreams in which I have no control over. The thing that occupies my thoughts is, that I don't seem able move forward and try to date again to see what kind of people I'm into, be it male, female or something else entirely. Part of my hesitation is that I've tried dating men in the past with whom I had nothing in common and zero chemistry on my part (even when objectively speaking I could tell they had nice faces, body tone and style). And when I find myself opening up emotionally with a man, still the sexual/romantic spark isn't there or is unclear. So in order to not lead anyone on, I've stopped dating guys -since my heart doesn't say YES to the idea of being anything more than friends with them. As for dating women, that's a little scary option to consider. It would mean I would have to come out and being unsure can complicate things. Any ideas to get past this stuck phase? I've talked about this with a couple of male friends, and I feel I still have some form of trauma to resolve but I'm unsure about how to progress. PS: I know going to a professional psychologist is what many of you would recommend but since I've gone this far without one, I'm confident I can handle things that surface. If you have any experience or tip that would be great! Thanks for reading.