My married girl friend had been kissing me on the lips for about a year now. I ended up developing feelings for her. I thought it was odd that she was kissing me on the lips. So, I told her yesterday that when we kiss on the lips, I like it. Too much. That I have feelings for her. That I realized this wasn't good, b/c she's my friend, and that's she's unavailable, and that my feelings are in check (which is true - I worked very hard to put myself in check when I realized what was going on. Wanted the friendship and knew she was married). She asked why I was telling her, and I said I felt it was the right thing to do, out of honesty for the friendship. Plus, she keeps kissing me on the lips. Which is an intimate act. And I feel that doing something intimate like that needs to be done by two people with the same intentions. And out of respect, and I needed to tell her what was going on. That it was causing feelings on my part. That I felt there may be a different set of intentions involved. I respect her too much to do something intimate with her, and feel I have one set of intentions she another. Not fair to her (although this may not be the case, I don't know - but I left that unsaid). She asked if I had romantic feelings for her. I dodged that question. I responded by saying I wanted to kiss her because I felt I wanted to be close to her. (Not sure this was the best response, it's just what I did.) I didn't really like this question by her. Not sure why. I suppose it's an honest question. Maybe you all can help me with this one. She didn't really have much to say. She thanked me for sharing, that I did need to tell her. But didn't say why. She said she needed time to think about this. I felt she was stunned by what I shared. This somewhat surprised me b/c she has initiated everything. We are 20 yrs apart in age. She said she was not going to share this with her husband. That there needed to be trust between us with our friendship. I made it clear I have no interest in a rlx. Just needed to be honest, that lip kissing was causing an issue. That she can ask me anything she needs to, we can discuss this further, she can say anything she needs to say. I am open to talking about this however she needs to talk about this. I also said I felt really awful about this b/c she's my dear friend, and I am in her life for the friendship. I haven't heard from her since. I don't expect to hear from her for a few days, probably. Any thoughts about this? Her response to my declaration? ugh.