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Spelling and Grammar in Relationships.

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Siarad, Dec 11, 2015.

  1. Siarad

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    So, as it says in the title... If you are in a relationship that involves texting or messaging -
    How important is your partner's grammar and spelling to you?
     
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    Not important at all.
     
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    Same for me, and I am fierce on people who play fast and loose with their language. But it's texting, so honestly, nobody cares. Content and conciseness are all you're going for in SMS. Now that doesn't mean u cn tok lik dis, but I won't have a spaz attack over a missing Oxford comma.
     
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    I don't care how someone texts to be honest, but I am a big grammar Nazi for using the right homophones in any situation.
     
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    In a friendship or relationship, spelling and grammar, at least in communication with me, would be about the most unimportant thing I can imagine. Now... if, say, this were someone I'm co-writing or co-presenting with, I'd want to ensure that what's being presented is grammatically correct, but outside of that, there are many things of importance to me, and that isn't one of them.
     
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    It's not that important to me per say but if you "txt me liek dis" or try and use dumb pet names like "bae" then I'm going to tell you to improve your texting style. It's too petty to break up with someone over but it is seriously painful for me to read messages consisting of 'ur' instead of 'your'.
     
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    This. I like small amounts of text-speak ("Lol" or "Brb") but anything more than that I don't think I could handle. I value proper spelling, punctuation being used correctly, and homophones not being confused. That being said, my girlfriend and I often forego punctuation completely. Not only is it often easier to type but it's also another way of conveying meaning. I'm also often lax about capitalization depending on who I'm talking to.
     
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    Given I doubt I'd date anyone uneducated anyway, I think sloppy texting wouldn't be a concern at all. My mother is highly educated and very sharp, but she still texts without any punctuation and invariably writes "u" for "you". Bad texting isn't really an indication of poor intelligence.

    Of course there are some people whose texting style betrays what could almost be called functional illiteracy if you're in an uncharitable mood, but I think that's not the same as most people's carelessness when texting. And if someone's that uneducated, it's probably detectable in a lot of other ways.
     
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    I'm an a big grammar Nazi but I don't care how a person is texting unless its somewhat like this
    Hi wtzup hw u doin hw is clg?
    *by this point I have sent that person reccomendations for some good language improving apps*
     
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    I would like their grammar and spelling to be fairly good, but mobile phones have small screens so it would be silly to get annoyed about the odd typo or missing apostrophe. If they were emailing, I would expect better grammar.
     
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    It's not important to me at all - and I wouldn't want to date someone that pretentious that they'd pick me up over any little error in a text message.
     
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    Spelling is helpful and I wouldn't be able to point out grammar [in jest: even if it punched me in the face] so I'd ignore it, but it wouldn't break us up or anything.
     
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    I definitely wouldn't reply anyone with an outstandingly bad grammar on a dating site, it's kinda a turn off for me; little mistakes don't bother me though.
     
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    I send most emails from my phone :lol:.
     
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    I'm a spelling and grammar freak, but it doesn't really bother me. I never quite got the hang of algebra, and so many people tried to explain it to me. It wasn't like I didn't want to understand it, it just never clicked. Spelling and grammar is just like that for some people. We all have our things!
     
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    It matters a bit to me, because unless my parter has dyslexia or something, to me, it reflects how much they respect me and how lazy they are or aren't.
    Sure, a few typos here and there doesn't matter, but if there's a bunch of missing comma's, sentences started with lower-case letters, and general misspellings of simple words, it tells me that they're not trying very hard.

    Some might say "why should they?", but they should. It's about respect, and showing that you want the other person to understand what you're writing.
     
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    As long as they spell my name correctly - love notes written with a pen work for me - J
     
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    As long as it's not horrendously bad, I'm okay :slight_smile: If it bothered me too much, I'd just call them or Skype them instead, that way I wouldn't have to offend them.
     
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    Not all that important because if and when I get into a relationship i at least know what he sounds like in real life. XD
     
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    my crush once texted me using like the most terrible spelling mistake in our language. And I thought "aah cute" so...
     
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