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Someone tell me how to be NOT lonely

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Suji, May 28, 2020.

  1. Suji

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    So... I’m 16y/o and also a lesbian. I’ve been single for almost 2 years now and I’m just soooo lonely I don’t know how to be in a relationship with someone either because I’m closeted. Someone tell me how to NOT be lonely... or just be my friend
     
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    It might be harder to find a relationship now that basically the whole world is on lockdown, but for friends, you probably already know this but there is a good amount of other people on EC that would love to be your friend. As for finding a girlfriend, I don't have much advice but if you be yourself someday soon you will find someone. :slight_smile:
     
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    It can be hard when you're feeling lonely. The first steps you can take is talk to people around you or join online platforms like EC to make friends. You can't force a relationship, but making friends is usually a good way to make yourself feel less lonely.
     
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    I feel a similar problem at the moment. The lockdown here in the UK has made me feel terribly isolated. Although I live with family, it's just not the same. I don't have my group of LGBT+ friends back when I was living elsewhere. I can't see them anymore since we all live miles and miles apart.

    I'm out to a lot of people, just not to my workplace because it's more awkward.

    I would definitely suggest that since you're 16, consider searching for LGBT+ groups or see if there are any get-togethers near to where you live that may be happening, or will happen if you're currently in quarantine.
     
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    I recommend social media. I've have leaned on friends and met new friends as well. I've also joined LGBT, trans, and non-binary Facebook groups that are private and only members of the group know who's in the group or see what's posted.

    Also, I don't know exactly how they did it/manage it, but I have a friend who is trans and is closeted among professional peers and has set up a second Facebook account with a fake name and only friends people that they want to have know that they're trans.
     
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    OMG same, I really want a girlfriend I'm gay as hell and I'm bored too. I've never had a girlfriend and I really want one
     
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    Im just here’s for the answers
     
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    Do the things you live doing, you will start meeting people with similar interests. Be patient but focused, life has a way of making things work as they should.
     
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    Get a pet, they are less maintenance than a relationship and are great listeners and are always happy to see you. I’m pretty lonely too but my dog helps, when she’s not acting like the tv is her worst enemy.
     
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    Honestly. The best way (at least from my experience) is just to engage in communities, such as you're doing now. Granted, that's coming from someone who isolated themselves for their entire lives until recently. So, it might be a bit biased. But yeah.