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some straight women are so flirty with lesbians. why?

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  1. Tigermud

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    well apart from the closet gay or bisexual. some women who are generally straight have flirted with me. I think it's a win-win self-esteem booster
     
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    Yeah, I don't know why they do that. :thinking: But it is fun sometimes. If we don't get too involved, why not have fun, right? :smile:

    But I also noticed that straight woman are a lot 'friendlier' with each other. Like cuddles and pat names. I do that with my hetero bff. But she is my bff and other people do not get the same treatment. And it always shocks me when a straight woman calls me 'honey' or 'sweety'. :flushed:
     
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    Some might not be as straight as they'd like you to think. Otherwise... women ARE a lot more touchy with one another. It might be different if they know someone is lesbian, though.
     
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    haha yeah it's all in good humour. I once had a straight lady chase me round the house and she would wait for me in my bed I was laughing so much. another said "you're very strong. you must be building up muscles from playing all that guitar" as I was lifting heavy boxes. another put me in a relationship with her on facebook
     
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    that's very true. but there's real flirting where girls can't help it or joke flirting (maybe showing close friendship) or girls like to tease wether that would be with male or female for banter
     
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    One of my best friends is straight, in a committed relationship with a man she supposedly wants to marry and have children with someday, but she flirts with me sometimes without realizing. I don’t think she does it on purpose. I think she feels that, since we’re best friends, we have a close (but platonic) connection. So she sometimes teases and jokes with me in a way that I interpret as flirting (since I’m a lesbian), but she interprets as just platonic closeness (since she’s straight). Kind of confusing when I word it that way, haha.
     
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    The same reason straight men flirt with gay men; Attention .
     
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    straight people wish they were gay
     
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    I said to a friend once "just because someone is happily straight married with children, doesn't mean they don't think about other men or women. or just because they're married doesn't mean there's not a chance for them to be bisexual" not that we're tempting them
     
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    I’ve actually had that conversation with my friend before...she’s told me that she would be willing to kiss or make out with another woman out of sheer curiosity, but that the idea of having sex with another woman doesn’t appeal to her at all. However, she really enjoys being physical with her boyfriend. I mean, who’s to say that she’s not bisexual? But I’m pretty darn sure she’s straight...she’s one of the straightest people I know haha.
     
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    Yeah, this one. That confuses me a lot too.
     
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    Because some people like to flirt, I do too, I sometimes even do it without realizing it, just for fun.
     
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    I think it's funny. but I've had flirting from straight friends in front of a girl who had a crush on me, if it makes them feel jealous then it makes things a little bit awkward. well ive had it the other way round where its made me feel a bit jealous or i just get over it cause I know they're only playing or the positive is that it brings out their qualities and personality.
     
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    • I think a lot of people are just naturaly flirty. I've had straight men flirt with me many times, I don't really mind it. However, I'm also guilty of flirting with women on occasion, so whatever! lol
     
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    I think part of it is because women can generally be more touchy with each other and experiment with women without being considered gay. And then I also think that straight women who flirt with lesbians like the attention they might get. If you flirt back it is like you are giving them a compliment that you both know probably isn't going to lead to more than flirting.
     
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    I think the reason is that women are more open minded about being with other women they know who are gay than men I think they are more straight laced about that emotion
     
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    If I'm remembering right, statistically, there are more bi women than lesbians so you might be running into women who present as straight (husband, kids, etc) but are actually bi. Probably closeted bi. And because women are in general a bit more free to be flirty with whoever it sometimes slips out.
     
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    A bit of fun without it being able to mean something?
     
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    Another thing I've heard straight women complain about is that their behaviors are often taken as interest or flirting by men. Perhaps lesbians also mistake these signals for more than they're intended?
     
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    I understand that. but when it's blatant "play" flirting like touchy feely and being super affectionate