I've been freaking out recently when I realised, I think vagina kinda looks weird and makes me scared im not straight. Im not completely disgusted by it rather i prefer other parts of a womans body. their lips, tits, ass, all that stuff turns me on. I have done oral on a woman a few times, not really my favourite thing to do, but i love being inside a woman. It just seems like if I was straight wouldn't i love and get insanely turned on by a vagina. Im not turned on by any male parts, but when i see a penis i feel a bit less weirded out but im not aroused by that or any other part of a man if that makes sense? does this mean im gay? been freaking out the past hour over this.
@masterofnone I believe you are obsessing over genitals and missing the larger picture. It doesn't sound to me as if you are gay. Maybe not even bisexual. Setting aside this issue of how you feel about the actual parts, how do you feel when you see a man or a woman that you find attractive. Is there a "hunger" inside you? This is how I was able to determine that my same sex attractions were not a kink, as a bisexual. When the right guy came along I could feel a longing that had nothing to do with his genitals. I just wanted him. It sounds to me like you are trying really hard to determine what your sexuality is based on only a small aspect of what being gay or straight really means. So, I would set aside this obsession with testing yourself and try and work on what you find attractive about women or men and how you see yourself in a relationship rather than how you see the mechanics of sex. I also wonder if you need to get some counseling in how to deal with what seems to me to be obsessive behavior? Perhaps some retraining of your thought patterns around thinking of genitals could be very helpful.
that hunger that you mention, has only ever came from women. i get butterflies thinking about being inside a woman. but saying that feels like some denial as i don’t necessarily love the look of a vagina. thanks for the advice and some clarity
Omg i was just thinking about that too. I never ate out a women but i always try to fantasize about it, i get aroused by it but theres always a weird feeling that makes me feel like im not enjoying and wont enjoy when i do it. Specially when i see pictures and videos of woman when they are horny, that she starts to get wet and all. This wet i think is kind weird and this makes me feel so insecure if it makes me gay or not. I like the sight of it, i get hard by the sight of it but im always nervous when seeing it, its more about when thinking about going down on it, i fearni wont like it and will make me prove im not straight. But like Nickw said, maybe this doesnt explain anything and it doesnt make us this or that, maybe i just dont like and that doesnt mean im not straight and neither do you
Here’s the thing. Some of us don’t really care what the parts look like to find intimacy fulfilling with others of the opposite sex or the same sex. When you are involved in intimacy with anyone, the most important thing is to connect with the person you are with in a mutually pleasurable way. The thought going through your head shouldn’t be what the parts look like. It should be how you engage through intimacy to provide unselfish pleasure to your partner. I guarantee that if you are in a loving relationship with a woman, and you have stopped obsessing over her vagina, you will not care what it looks like. You will only care about how you feel when you are with her and how you can use intimacy to share how you feel. That’s what being straight is (or gay if you desire someone of the same sex). Porn causes us to fixate on parts and I think it can really distort attraction. The butterflies you describe when you consider being with a woman are what defines your sexuality. You’re a straight guy who just doesn’t like the look of a vagina. So what. I’m queer and I’m not that into the look of a guy’s organ. But I sure like the way I feel when we provide each other pleasure through intimacy.
Does this apply to someone that doesnt like to do oral to a woman? I never did, but i fear i wont like it since sometimes it seems kind weird to me, ive also seem some people on internet saying they dont like too, most responses are calling them gay lol My problem is not even that tbh, is more being selfish bc not liking doing it to your partner is extremely selfish isnt it?
Maybe you should try it? You'll get definitive answer. It's up to your partner if they call it selfish or not, and if they do, it's up to you to overcome your distaste of doing it. It depends how much you love your partner. I could do anything to someone i truly love.
I really want to try it, but i dont habe a partner and my anxiety simply doesnt let me, lsst time i've marked my first hookup one day before i canceled bc i was afraid
First, im sorry for taking your tread and ask question, sorry for that. Second i agree with chip, at the end of the day its only your ocd
