I was very fortunate to be able to go on vacation out of town recently. It gave me the chance to disconnect from work and work to process all the thoughts and feelings I've had. And one of the things that came up was why society at-large makes such a huge deal about being gay. Does anyone know? For all my closeted years, being gay was this HUGE thing in my life. Maybe it was because I was younger and more, um, sexually charged, than I am now, but maybe it was because other people made such a big deal about someone being gay. As I'm coming out, I'm realizing that to people who don't care about whether someone is gay, being gay doesn't make you any more or less interesting to talk to, or any better or worse of a person. It's just a thing like hair color. And that is good, of course, but it's also a little unsettling to me. Now I'm wondering what exactly makes me interesting or a good person or whatever. I have to rediscover myself all over again. Maybe straight people have to do that, too, sometimes. At least I hope they do.