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So I did it...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Rayland, Sep 27, 2021.

  1. Rayland

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    I sent a coming out letter to my very close friend. I have been friends with her for years and I am terrified of her reaction. Just pushing the send button took so much convincing. So scared.
     
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    I wish you luck, doing it always has been infintely harder than people realize
     
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    Thank you.
     
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    You'll be fine :hugging:
     
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    Thank you. I hope so.
     
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    Yes of course. It actually went well. I was suprised. At first she was confused about the letter, but she didn't say anything, she only asked if I am really going to go through with the transition and she said she don't think it's free and I said it's not. And she also told me she had a coworker who was trans too, so that don't really suprise her. She said, that she can't imagine me looking different, but it will be a new experience for her too and takes getting used to.
     
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    Really good to hear this. I'm sure she will adapt as you transition. Much like growing and ageing it doesn't happen overnight.
     
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    Rayland.....So happy for you!!! :old_smile:
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Pleased to hear that it went well. :slight_smile:
     
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    Glad to hear she took it so well. There might be some growing pains along the way for you both, but you've taken an important first step--and that counts for a lot. :slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations! I'm glad she reacted well. I'm also glad you found the courage to reach out to her. It is scary, but now you know you have a true, supportive friend.