Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Kasey, Dec 11, 2014.
you got this hun. Hugs.
so, I looked through my writings yesterday. including my blog posts, short stories and poetry, I have 11 pieces written since april. I love how freeing my mind from keeping in the closet gives me room to explore my creativity.
It looks like a film scene ;-)
not trans related but a big step for me none the less.
so, it's like 30+ years over due, but i have started this. part time and distance as much as possible but here we go. I'm goin to University, gulp.
My partner has been approved to start testosterone! I’m so happy for him but I have no one else to tell so here have it! Good vibes!
I just came out to my flat mates and they started to call me by my new name straight away
I bought a skirt. It has little dinosaurs on it.
I just came out to my parents
ok folks, update time. I GOT IN.... I got my acceptance letter yesterday, I am sooo excited. I'm going to University.... OMG
So my extended family responded with
"What do you want me to call you?"
"When can we see you again?"
"Know you are loved"
I'm still not invited to my brothers wedding though.
So apparently I pass as a straight, cisgender guy. I am not sure whether to feel amused or bothered by this. Little do they know, I suppose...
then it's your brother's loss, Period. I mean that completely. you know you have family who do love you, as you. and that includes a lot of us sister.
Been doing research for about 6 months into transferring schools (doing online courses through a catholic school in AZ that my wife and roomies go to as well). Was talking to an admissions councelor of a school that I chose (secular, private non-profit) in the northeast on Wednesday and I came out as trans. I was immediately assured that the school has a no tolerance policy for discrimination against LGBT students and my being trans would not affect my status as a student. I was so excited and relieved! When asked about preferred name and gender I couldn't bring myself to say "female" and my chosen name, but still a huge step for me! I been feeling very good about that the past couple days
so last night i want to my first poetry night at my friends cafe. i presented 3 of my poems. including one thats trans themed and came out to a room with about 40 strangers there. it was a safe place because it was my friends cafe but boy was i nervous. it went well. everyone seemed to like my writings so..... there's that.
so last night I had my Trans support Group meeting. plenty of people there, one friend who was coming for their first time couldn't make it but I ran into another friend and we had dinner together then went to the meeting. i told them about my poetry night adventure and met some new friends. one person who i met the last meeting really seemed to like me so we'll see where that goes.
I came out to another person! It’d been a few years once we’d spoken, but now that I’ve moved back to the city we decided to reconnect over dinner. I came out to them as trans a few days ago, and they are very accepting. And when we met for dinner today, I presented very androgynously, and they referred to me with my chosen name! So now for the first time I’m fully interacting with someone as Natalie, and it feels incredible. It’s completely wiped away any doubts about being trans. We’ve got plans to meet again, so now I have a friend who knows me as me, as the girl I am. They even put me in their phone as Natalie. I’m soooo happy right now!
So I live with an older couple, and though I previously mentioned to them that I’m trans, was pretty sure they had no idea what that meant. I went in more depth with the older gentleman today and essentially, came out as trans to him. He is a very conservative person, and we had been talking about the LGBT community (he had mentioned some similar things as my parents had about the topic of trans people, that in one view they were “changing” their God given design). I explained to him that I am in fact a transgender person and told him, for lack of better terms, I “used to be a girl” and it finally clicked with him. It was interesting because I saw how it finally registered. He had a few questions which I answered to the best of my ability. But in the end he was like, “Well Alec. You’ve given me a lot of deep thinking to do!”
So I came out to another important person, and it didn’t go terribly.
so, it seems I'm in a relationship with a guy. he's also trans. the thing is we're in a Polyam relationship as he has a primary partner that he's been with for a few years. so I'm his satellite. I'm ok with this. its online because he is younger, yes we've met in real life, but his parents don't know he's trans, and they aren't accepting of LGBTQ people. so he needs to hide. but we're trying to get time alone soon. for all that it's very exciting to have my first relationship in over 5 years.
Aww, that's great, Sarah! I hope it goes well for you guys!
thank you sooo much.