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Small Victories

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Kasey, Dec 11, 2014.

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    well ive done it. i came out on my social media accounts, i've made all the preps for going to work on monday as Sarah, i have my licence, Social Insurance Number changed, changing my provincial health care card tomorrow, published my blog (waiting for approval if i can publish it here) and i went out in my area as myself and introduced myself to friends who didnt know or had never seen the real me, all good. just a few victories today.
     
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    I am now comfortable identifying as gay. It's been years and years of internalized homophobia and bargaining with myself, despite being an avid supporter of the LGBT community. Finally, I've realized that you know what? Women are amazing, and I love being close friends with them, but that doesn't mean I have to want to sleep with them. I like boys. And that is okay.
     
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    I already said it on Facebook but welcome to the sisterhood guuurrrlll!♡♡♡♡
     
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    Thank you love. it feels so great, like you said it would. seeing you slaying it has been a great inspiration to me. so Thank you again.
     
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    first selfie on the deck of an out and free Sarah.
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    I started T today! My muscle aches a little but apart from that everything is good. Really happy it’s finally happened!
     
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    Last week, while talking with my husband, I casually asked him if sometimes I can wear his boxer briefs (my excuse was that they are comfortable), and he said "Yes, no problem". So now when I feel like it, I can wear his underwear without feeling guilty and without hiding. Obviusly I've already done it and, like expected, it feels wonderful :grinning:
    And today..I ordered my first binder! It's a cheap one, but I plan to wear it only once or twice a year. If I'll start to use it more than initially intended, I'll buy a better one. I still don't know how I feel about it, I'm excited and I'm scared, because it means that I'll be presenting as male when I'll go to the local pride :sunglasses:
     
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    little steps, that's how most of us started hun.
     
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    My consultation for top surgery is officially schedule for May 22nd!
     
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    well, it's been quite a week, im OUT, only one negative experience, and that one doesnt even mean much if anything. no one batted an eye for the most part, lots of hugs, lots of well wishes, it's been great.
     
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    ok folks this is hugh, today is my mom's 74th birthday. neither her nor dad have seen me dressed as me, as Sarah. so i went up to bring her birthday present dressed as me, wig, makeup the whole nine yards. dad didnt recognize me at first, and mom looked at me like i was ok, we chatted and mom said they would have trouble adjusting to my name, dad said i reminded him of a woman in his home town, it went so much better than i expected, my son was with me, and he said it went well too.
    i am soo relieved. it's still going to be strained for a bit but i think it'll be ok with them, im a very happy girl.
     
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    Update: it has been rescheduled for June 5 because the doctor won't be there on May 22 (I don't know why they don't check these things before scheduling people). Not terribly far off anyway, so I am still looking forward to it.
     
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    That's great!
     
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    it really is, such a relief.
     
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    I just booked a date for my first gender therapy session - May 26th. I'm thrilled to finally start! Also, so far all of my communication with my therapist has been as Olivia, and I'm planning on presenting as female, even though I don't even remotely pass, during my sessions. I've never presented as female, so I'm nervous for that, but thrilled to finally be doing so! Everything is starting to come to fruition! :slight_smile: :slight_smile:
     
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    I just bought a tie to wear to graduation!
     
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    What kind of tie? And what knot will you make?
     
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    Me too!
     
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    Doesn't matter how many times, getting called "sir" still gets me.
     
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    had an older man hold the door for me, and check out my legs haha. it felt really nice. then another man said excuse me miss as he passed me in the store.
     
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