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Small Victories

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Kasey, Dec 11, 2014.

  1. Alexis17

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    1. I changed my pronouns to "them/they" on facebook.
    2. I got my hair cut to a more gender neutral style.
    3. I went out in public yesterday with my binder on and a beanie and I think I passed pretty well as a male :grin:
    It's been a pretty good few days :slight_smile:
     
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    I begin my 36th trip around the sun today.
     
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    Happy Birthday hun. so i was 14 when you were born, wow. :wink: have a blast you deserve it.
     
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    surgery tomorrow, hopefully things go ok. have to stay overnight then discharge on saturday and recovery at home. oh boy... but im counting it as a victory because the alternative is very much negative or worst.
     
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    WOW. That's quick. (I must be used to the six months waiting lists in Italy for ordinary specialistic visits xD)
    Take care of yourself :slight_smile:
     
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    oh, this is like 3 years in the making, i've been having treatment for a condition and no luck, this is a permanent solution im told, life altering but better than if the condition goes the way it was.
     
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    Nothing quite like 3 inch heels that feel like flats. I love having pretty clothes and shoes.
     
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    That feeling when you dream about your favorite hoodie and find it two years later cheap on ebay. I finally got it >.<
     
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    I spent a week with friends on a school trip and was called the right name and pronouns pretty much the whole time

    I've also noticed I've started to care less about passing, probably because I'm getting more validation in other ways. I think this is probably good for me, at this stage.
     
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    Well i've been in hospital since last week, but every one from the surgeon to the nurses have been calling me Sarah and mostly using the right pronouns
     
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    Just moved to college, and for the first time in my life I introduced myself as Alec.
     
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    Some good stories I read here recently. Makes me happy.
     
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    I've started my new position as a supervisor at work. My new clients actually thought that I was 24 instead of 15. So, looks like I'm getting through the teenager phase of T finally!
     
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    I finally got a flat iron yesterday and used it this morning. I discovered that I REALLY want my hair straightened now because it looks SOOOOO much more feminine on me than my wavy hair.
     
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    A couple of good and bad things have happened lately.

    Osac pulled the rug out from under me. Apparently my family makes too much money to qualify for the grant. I was relying on that to pay for my tuition. They didn't have an estimateed family contribution restriction last year, why implement it now?

    I have a sort of love-hate relationship with my body. I love my legs. Hate my hands and feet. I'm just noticing how asymmetrical my face is. Hate body hair. Shaving my legs is a 2 hour endeavor. 6'2" and 63% leg. That's a lot of surface area.
    My hairline could use some work. The actual hair itself is course yet soft. I part it differently now so it looks more feminine. It's still messy as shit though, but I don't really care. I'm gaining weight which is good and bad. My butt is nicer but my abdomen isn't feeling it.

    I've gotten back into the habit of practicing my voice. Haven't done that in years.

    I'm too nervous to talk to an endocrinologist.

    My mood has been steadily improving.

    I work a lot. 8am-7pm 6 days a week at 12 am hour. Used to be 8 to 9 and the occasional 10. I don't mind. All I usually do is drive tractors all day. Everyone here is conservative though so I can't really be myself.

    I get a consistent 5 hours of sleep every day. Honestly by choice. I'm bad at life.

    I play overwatch every day in hopes of becoming good. I'm slowly getting there. I like to play widow because she's at such a disadvantage and I like a challenge.

    I think I have a mild risk of becoming an alcoholic. Beer tastes terrible which I guess is a good thing.

    I'm going to a community college for pre engineering. I think I'm gonna make my first real move and tell people to call me Katja.

    When school starts, I'll have more time to myself so I can wear a bra around the house again.

    Despite my inability to pay for school at the moment, I'm thinking about buying a 3D printer. I want to make video game props for cosplay. I could also sell these props to supplement my income, actually.

    I wonder if it's possible to 3D print breast forms.

    Anyway, fuck Donald Trump and his fake civil war monument and his shitty sack of potatoes lookin ass. Fucking dumpster fire of a human being.
     
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  16. Kasey

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    I feel pretty today.
     
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    Yesterday, my mom told me that she thinks I'm genderfluid.
     
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    I'm not out to anyone yet, but there are a few victories for me.

    One is when I was at the beach, my mom's friend's son was playing with me. He even like me more than my brother. He never remembered my name (he was like 5) so when he wanted my attention he said "hey boy" But unfortunately that one turned out badly because my mom corrected him, but it was funny because she said "I promise you she is a girl" and he responded "I promise you hes a boy."

    The second one is when I was at red robins, I went into the girls bathroom (I didn't even need to go, but my sister wanted me to go with her.I never understood that.) but when I walked out there was this group of girls. An older lady that seem like a mom or something looked at me and said "whats going on?" then she look like 5 time to make sure she was going into the right bathroom. I know it was stupid, but it made me feel nice.

    The 3rd was my aunt got a new boyfriend. He had two kids. One was 11 and one was 7. I stayed at there house for a week. They kept addressing me with male pronouns, It helps that I already have a unisex name. But halfway through the week, my aunt corrected them. The little boy continued to accidentally call me boy, but he corrected himself which made me feel sad.

    And the last one was when I was at the park. I was playing hide n seek with my siblings and cousins. While I was hiding this younger looking women came up to me and said "Young man, my son would like to join in on your game." I was gonna correct her, because I do it so often because of my family, But I decided not to. They weren't there so I said why not. I am a boy.
     
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    That's an interesting thing to be called out on that specifically.
     
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    I ordered a swimming binder and am so excited for it to arrive.
     
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