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Small Victories

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Kasey, Dec 11, 2014.

  1. Rickystarr

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    Yeah, I'm not religious about it , but I do. The thing is, I worked out before T as well and this never happened. And my shoulders have definitely gotten bigger. They weren't terribly small before either.
     
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    Hmmm.. I don't know then.. That is really strange. Maybe you should be more religious about the stretches, if you want to though.
     
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    Bumped into a workman and got a "sorry, sir". :slight_smile:
     
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    My binder arrived today! It fits perfectly :icon_bigg :icon_bigg :icon_bigg
     
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    OK, over the last couple of months: I've come out as bi-gender (and pansexual) to a few dozen people, slowly, over time, including my two sisters.

    I went to Montréal, stayed as a friend, and went out as a woman for the first time ever. Then I went to a dance club by myself (same night), still en femme. Then the next morning I went and had brunch as a female.

    This past weekend, I went to a dance party at a trans event in Marlborough, Massachusetts with a friend. She had barely ever been out, either. While there, I danced and talked to people and generally had a wonderful time. The next morning, we went and had the hotel breakfast among the straightest crowd I've been out with to date.

    My hair has grown to a length where I can actually curl it, and with a little practice I'm good enough at curling it that it actually looks nice. My makeup looks all right. When I step outside, my heart feels steady. When I tell someone I am sometimes male and sometimes female, I believe what I'm saying.

    I have a long, long way to go, but so far people have been kind, and that's something I'm deeply thankful for.
     
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    The event was put on by the Tiffany club right?
     
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    I was at this place, and this little boy asked me if i was a boy or a girl. When i replied boy, he grinned and said "thats what i thought!"

    Someone thought i was a guy, too.
     
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    It was! At First Event in Marlborough, Massachusetts. Were you there? The dance party was fantastic, but I didn't attend any of the daytime programming, so I can't comment on that, though I've heard very good things. (www.firstevent.org)
     
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    No I was out and about with friends at the time but I knew of it.
     
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    Two nights ago, I met one of my biggest heroes in the underground horror community and not only did I "pass", but he told me he didn't really grow a beard until he was 30 (when I said I regularly get read as being 16); which was super cool and sort of gives me hope for the future.
     
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    That's awesome man.

    Not a real victory but I ordered some cool looking clothes from a site and they came in today. Not only were they as great as I imagined, but they fit right too! It's always been a fear of mine buying online because of size.. I am rather small in both height and size wise(though my broad shoulders emphasize my size a bit I think), so normally if a piece of clothing fits me one way, not so much the other way; this mostly applies to pants. But I did it! I gambled since the clothing was pretty cheap and they all fit great! And now I know to always shop for asian sizes and I'll always have a good fit with less hassle .. :lol::tears::dry:
     
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    Vincent, having done a lot of online shopping lately myself, I call good clothes that fit a victory for sure! As male assigned at birth, I just have to be sure to *never* shop for Asian sizes. It's a great idea for you to shop for them, though! I'll pass that hint along to other FTM friends.
     
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    Fixed the tab on our bathroom sink per request of SO. It's silly but it felt nice to do something helpful in the middle of my self-loathing week. I even got a "THanks Handsome" afterwards. maybe today won't be too bad.

    also I'm finally getting a haircut. I can feel it on my neck and it bothers me. After work that crud is getting off of me.
     
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    Bill collector called said "may I speak with birth name" I said "that's me", she paused for a good minute before continuing. Usually I get "Am I speaking with birth name" not "may I speak with birth name" so I guess I passed on the phone for the first time for a second lol. She woke me up too so my voice was extra deep.
     
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    Well, I guess it's a HUGE victory, but I called and made my appointment!

    Next Wednesday I have my very first appointment for HRT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    Congrats!!!

    I wore one of my new shirts today. I got so many comments on it, most of them like "Nice shirt bro".

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    Welp prince vegita youre shirt is mighty cool!

    Well I cut my hair super short and now I feel like I pass! And my friend was talking to her family and they want to get me a real chest binder!
     
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    I had to try on something for girls for sports. It didn't fit because my shoulders are too broad so I got one for boys.
     
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    Your shirt's so freaking cool, man.
     
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    Love how you're sitting on the sink. Shirt looks good on you too.