Size really matters

Size matters, but how you own your story also matters.

You will get people who won't hook up with you because of your size that's how it works. That being said, focus on the people who will either not care or like it.

I personally don't mind a small dick. I have been with guys as small as 4 inches and my husband had a friend who was 3. We were both able to make it work, but the guys who we were with just owned their small dicks. They knew it was small and they also knew they were still sexy and that we were going to have a great time.

If I were you I would put that you are looking for guys who are into small dicks and be super straight forward. Just own the fuck out of it.

 

Hey

I have very little experience with men. Only two that were what I would call regulars. One is very well endowed and the other quite small.

So, maybe this is TMI. But, the larger guy I can't be versatile with. The smaller guy we can. So, the experience was different with each guy and, quite honestly, I can't say which was better.

Smurf is correct. There is no reason to feel inadequate. It isn't the "tool" it's the "carpenter" that makes it good.

This whole emphasis on d##ks in the hookup scene is something I don't understand. Guys that tie their self esteem or rate others on a body part do not seem like they would be all that great to be with anyway.

 

I also have limited experience with men and most of it has been me servicing them, so I can’t really speak on that. I’m also small though, and my experiences with women taught me to be good at other things as well. Then hopefully my lack of size will not be a problem

 

It wouldn't matter to me if I'm attracted to you and your personality since that's what turns me on. I guess some guys are turned on by a big dick and just want a hookup so for them it would matter. Seems like it depends on what they need to be turned on. Hopefully you find the guys that are attracted to you and dick size is irrelevant.

 

In my opinion, any guy who rejects you because of the size of your dick is just telling you what kind of person he is. That's actually a good thing - now you know he's an asshole, so move on. The person who really cares about you doesn't care about the size of your dick.

 

I enjoy with guy who has small dick. I'm not quite a lot do anal sex with guy who has big dick because my ass cannot accept big dick.
Wish I were close to you.

S in Indonesia

 

I don't do dick pics. The penis is the last body part I want to see. If I like the look of everything (face, chest, arms, legs, butt) then I don't really care how big or small his cock is. And if a man likes everything else about me, then he should be happy to meet and have fun with me, regardless of my cock size. So if he insists on seeing a pic of my cock before meeting in person, then I don't want to know.

 

Yes there are size queens. I had a friend that would not hook up with a guy unless they where 7” or above. Me I liked smaller
If they ask for a pic just say you are not what I’m looking for.
Btw there are ways that do work to increase your size. I do several exercise daily for the last year and have increased

 

I would agree that anyone who wants to see a dick pic before agreeing to meet is going to be a very superficial type of person, who is not going to offer any kind of meaningful relationship, however brief. So you’re not missing anything.

There are many guys out here who are not interested in how big a guys cock is, but whether they are attracted to that guy mentally as well as physically ( which doesn’t necessarily include cock size, some guys are that superficial, many are not).

I once dated a guy who I was very attracted to. He wanted to get to know me before we considered having sex and I was happy to go along with this. Apart from neither of us being into hook ups, he wanted time, it turned out, because he was nervous about being small. I just didn’t care, by the time we started having sex, I just wanted him for who he was, and I was overjoyed that this lovely guy wanted to sleep with me . It didn’t matter that he was small, the fact that this very sexy guy wanted me at all was enough . Such a turn on . He’s one of the best lovers I’ve ever had, and we’d be together now if his work hadn’t taken him away.

 

I would take a hard look at where you are meeting people. I've never taken a picture of my junk and never been asked for one--I would find it extremely off-putting if anyone ever requested one, and I was far from a prude back in the day.

 

Hey Camel

I see most of us reacted the same way...size doesn't matter to the guys you might be better off meeting anyway...

Rather than give you grief about where you meet guys or how you go about it, I thought I'd ask you why the hookup scene?

 

Reading this thread is such a huge culture shock. Has to be a generational thing for sure.

Dick pics before hook ups is the norm. I have sent and received more dick pics than I can probably try to count.

I do enjoy the hell out of seeing a dick pic before hooking up with someone. 1) turns me on 2) people get creative which is fun 3) I like to see what I'm singing up myself for. There has been a couple dick that I just can't do, but rarely due to size.

 

I think it’s definitely generational. I’m in my mid 40s and it never occurred to Me. Almost all of my romantic life had been with women. I don’t know if that makes a difference. Maybe so

 

Yeah, I think it's generational. I wasn't quite the town bike but, well, I was generous with my affections. Still in all that time I never even considered sleeping with someone I had not met, which I imagine is when the dick pics would most often come out. I guess it may also be that I can't imagine really finding a dick pic that appealing. I mean penises are important when you really get down to business, but for me they're hardly what it's about. I can't imagine thinking that a dick pic reflected "what I was signing up for". I guess in my mind if someone thinks their dick is one of their better features, or one of their more important attributes, that would just be sort of a turn off for me...

I guess everyone is looking for different things...

 

I'm probably one of the older guys here and I don't know that this is generational at all....at least in my, albeit, limited experience. Truth be told. I have sent photos that would keep me from running for public office for sure. I don't care to see a dick photo although they are often sent unsolicited. But, I did, accidently, due to an app function that was very close to the scroll portion of the screen, send out a number of my private photos unsolicited and started receiving a number of hookup requests...oops. I think my dick must wink or something.

Funny though. I have flirted with guys on line and I have a couple of chat buddies that I trade some photos with. But, I, way more often than not, meet the guys where we haven't exchanged photos. I really look for a bit more in common than a shared interest in each other's dicks.

But, my gay age is about 18 so I could be wrong about the generational thing.

 

I feel that size is a consideration for couples who enjoy anal sex. There needs to be a match sexually, especially around the question of { top, bottom, versatile, and the permutations } as well as the top and bottom parts' being matched in size. For example, a versatile guy might not be fulfilled with a total bottom. Similarly, a guy who is thick might not be the best match for a newbie bottom while a smaller penis might not be a great match for an experienced bottom. Of course men come as packages, so one needs to balance these factors with personality, compatibility, et al.

When it comes to oral, size is less of an issue for me.

 

I have been in places where they ask size etc - frankly that never mattered. If that is all someone cares about then move on . That being said I am not one for just hook ups - but I would rather care about who I am and my thoughts than how I look or size. When they express superficial needs then I know I am not someone they want to talk to or communicate with. A person is more than size of a penis which you have no control over - it is who you are and what you want to bring to the relationship that matters. So to me size does not matter!!! Me two encounters - one large and one small - small was so much easier to enjoy and appreciate and stimulate. So own it and be okay with it

 

If these "various places" are hookup sites, and if you're posting ads, why not advertise that you have a small dick? This way you can pretty much count on not being rejected, and you'll get replies from men who have no preference or prefer a smaller size.

I'm more interested in how a guy's dick looks than how big it is. Pornography is partly to blame for what would seem like a preference for big dicks. I look at porn a lot and to me, they get boring after a while. One after the other. Perky little peckers are fine with me.