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Similarities Of Anxiety And Sexual Arousal

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by chopinfan88, Aug 10, 2014.

  1. chopinfan88

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    Hello Everyone,

    I have a question that is somewhat related to sexual orientation. Are there any similarities between feeling anxiety and sexual arousal?

    Through help on this site I have come to realize that I have a mild case of HOCD, or Gay OCD (in my case, Straight OCD :lol:slight_smile:. I know that I am gay, have always found men attractive, but now know that I have a fear of being straight. I have had this on and off for many years. It scares the hell out of me! My HOCD is now something that I am working on getting rid of.

    My question is being asked because I have noticed a similarity in how I feel when I have anxiety, and when I am sexually aroused. The feelings that my HOCD cause are almost identical to what I feel when sexually aroused, minus physical aspects of coarse.

    Should there be a similarity in these two feelings, or is my mind screwing with me even more?

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    Anxiety in all forms often manifests itself viscerally as a fight or flight response. Is that what you are experiencing?
     
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    Hello Kai LD,

    Thank you for the response and the link. Yes, I do believe that this type of fight or flight response is what I am experiencing when I say anxiety. Although it may not be the exact emotion that I experience when sexually aroused, they do seem similar. Perhaps I am just confusing two different emotions.

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    It very well could be. I am still struggling with issues I gave myself by trying to fit in. Anxiety is pretty darn constant for me in some form.
     
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    Oh that's a familia feeling. :-(
    I would get anxiety at potential sexual encounters, which is what led me to think I'm gay.
    I mean if everyone felt like this, would anyone try and sleep with the opposite sex. To confuse matters more though, I've yet to be attracted to the same sex....